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Post Info TOPIC: What an eyeopener-Share on control


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What an eyeopener-Share on control


    Good morning to my wonderful MIP family.
    Was reading some in my Language of Letting Go this morning and today's devotion just blew me away, and really hit home, especially with the struggle I have been having to get back on track the past 1 1/2 weeks.
     It reads as follows and I thought some here may like to here it:
February 15, 2009
"""Sometimes, the gray days scare us.  Those are the days when the old feelings come rushing back.  We may feel needy, scared, ashamed, unable to care for ourselves.
When this happens, it's hard to trust ourselves, others, the goodness in life and the good intentions our HP. Problems seem overwelming.  The past seems senseless, the future bleak.  We feel certain the things we want in life will never happen.
In those moments, we may become convinced that things and people outside of ourselves hold the key to our happiness.  That's when we may try to control people and situations to mask our pain.  When these "codependant crazies" strike, others often begin to react negatively to our controlling.
When we are in a frenzied state, searching for happiness outside ourselves and looking to others to provide our peace and stability, REMEMBER THIS---
EVEN IF WE COULD CONTROL THINGS AND PEOPLE, EVEN IF WE GOT WHAT WE WANTED, WE WOULD STILL BE OURSELVES.  OUR EMOTIONAL STATE WOULD STILL BE IN TURMOIL.
Peopel and things do not stop our pain or heal us.  IN recovery we learn that this is our job, and we can do it by using our resources: ourselves, our HP, our support systems and our recovery program.
Often after we have become peaceful, trusting and accepting what we want comes to us-with ease and naturalness.  The sun begins to shine again.
Isn't it funny and isn't it true how all change really does begin with me???""

Seems to me like my HP was listening to me once again-lol......and knows exactly how I have been feeling and struggling to take the focus off of EXABF and put it back on me, my recovery, my faith and my parenthood.

What a wonderful program this truly is.  Sometimes it is SUPER hard for me but if I just listen and WAIT it is amazing how He sends me all the answers I need....

Happy Sunday MIP family~
Still struggling to Keep it simple
Shelly

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thanks!
this speaks to me also.smile


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Hi (((Shelly))),
Great share! I just said this morning after reading today's ODAT and C2C pages that I find it truly amazing how the page for the day almost always is the exact thing you needed to hear. How that works, I'm not sure! But it does. Perhaps our HP knows what it is we need to hear and puts it right in front of us, all we have to do, is look and LISTEN!

I am truly grateful for Al Anon and my MIP family!

Sis


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