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I really have created a dilemma which reminds me again of making poor partner choices. I formed a partnership approximately one year ago, actually sold my business with a 6year payout with my manager and his son. I needed help as my business was growing and I was still at home taking care of my son. Anyway, after about a month I began to sense that these guys were out for my top clients and let the others fall through the cracks...there wasn't enough money from them and they got 100% from their own book of business, they paid me a percentage of business from my clients. I began to question this as I feel and felt all of my clients were worthy of time and advice and could offer referrals. They continued to tell me they were contacting all of my clients. I was trusting...against my gut. I kept assuming the best. As time went on I began to lose clients...they didn't feel they were treated respectfully from my new partners. I saw the writing on the wall and tried to redirect the partnership...to no avail. So, we severed our partnership in Sept. They were very bitter and had convinced one of my clients to insist on demanding their services. So, I had to give this client up. I am, was vulnerable as I simply am not that available...to meet all of my clients needs. That was the reason for the partnership. I also specifically voiced my concern that they would just focus on my top clients and not care about the rest. After the break up they were bitter that they couldn't have access to all of my top clients...a firm rule. So, Friday they left our firm and now can go after not only my top clients but all of them at their new firm. I feel like I again picked addictive/Alcoholic partners and am now essentially feeling abused. I can't believe how this has backfired on me...it makes me sick. I feel so vulnerable and don't know how to proceed. I am trying to adopt the 1st step and know that I can only control me...I just can't believe that I am in this situation. I had such a great business one year ago and now not only lost clients but am in jeopardy of losing my very top.
I am confident that if I let go and trust the Lord over time I will be victorious...what you put out comes back and deception/cheating can't be rewarded long term can it?
I don't want to beat myself up. I do feel quite alone...and saddened that it turned this sour.
Well I just wanted to get this out there so that hopefully I can move past it and leave it to the Lord and do what I can in my power. I do not want to be bitter or fearful...now is the time for my program and meetings.
Sometimes I feel like the waters are never calm...it goes from one problem to another...aauggh...well today I am OK.
Hello , am sorry for the dilema u find yourself in at the moment . *Let go and let God * works but we have to do the footwork before letting go . Protect the clients u have left do what u have to do to get your business going again you did it once u can do it again . Louise
I agree with Abbyal, you got them before and you can get them again. Also, if you lost some good ones it means that there are better ones coming into play soon- keep your ears and eyes open for new angles and new prospects, maybe a whole new "vein" of clients. Think bigger, not smaller. Think love, not fear- HP has and will provide perfectly for you, place your trust in HP. You may need to shrink in order to really grow in a newer and better way. Have faith and you are in my best thoughts! Hugs, J.
I think its so hard to walk through life centered. Of course sometimes we are going to make decisions that are off base. When i took the living situation I am in now I was desperate. Of course it wasn't well thought out. I doubt I have thought out many decisions in my life. If we are vulnerable, we are vulnerable.
Creating a secure base can take a lot. Why beat yourself up for not knowing. When we know we do better.
