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Does your son attend A.A. or N.A. If he does not choose to do so on his own, and he is not looking for a rehab on his own… is he desperate enough yet… is he sick and tired of being sick and tired? He is willing to go to any length? If not, what are the chances…. anyway.
Hi Ameida - If you call any AA number in your area they can tell you the neareat rehabs. If your son is serious and calls himself, someone will make arrangements to take him.
Love in recovery - Dot ((((((((((((Ameida))))))))))
Last week he was arrested for posession, and HE decided to go for help. We waited 7 hrs in the hospital emergency room before he was transported to rehab.
The day after that he called and said he was being sent home...insurance would not pay for more. We then called the insurance co which told us thst if the rehab facility called and appealed the decision he could stay...well that did not happen because the had already gave up the bed.
It is just very agrivating that because there are no physical withdrawal symtons from crack as there is with other drugs the don't keep them.
Well he took off last Wed and we had not heard from him, yesterday he text messaged my cell phone HELP, i told him for what so he can take off again i suggested he go somewhere to get help, well the message i received back was not very nice.
Later in the afternoon he phoned me from a payphone i asked him what he wanted, his reply was i just wanted to call again i asked him what he wanted, then he hung up.
This morning he text his wife HELP, she replied HOW. We have not heard from him since.
It is very frustrating, constantly thinking is this the right thing to do...is he going to make it through this.....
I can relate. I have a 44 year old on the same road. sometimes she stays clean and others not. my life has to continue in a sane manner. what I can tell you is to call any drug program and ask for the names of ones that are no cost, almost all states have them. Also, he has to be willing to get well. Yes, its a tough drug, but he has to decide enough is enough. I know you love him, but I found out love was not enough, they have to want recovery.
My big question is are you going to al non meetings, please keep coming back to this site and stay in contact. we all are here to support and hear from you. you may want to encourage his wife to go to al non. I will let you know al non saved my life. I found I was not alone and others cared.
Update on my son, he just got out of rehab on Sat.
His wife(they are seperated) and i went to pick him up, she was on call and got called into work and she asked him if he could stay over her house to watch the kids(they have 2 ) he told her he neededto go to a meeting, well she got upset so he skipped the meeting and she went to work.
Tonight she gave him the keys to her car and some money to go to a meeting.
He is coming to live with his father and i.
My concern is not knowing what is the right or wrong way to deal with him.
I have started reading Alanon books and have attended online meetings so i'am new to this.
I hope all works out for your son in his recovery.
The only thing I can tell you is to let him deal with it. He has to be responsible for his own recovery, and his own marriage. The best thing that you can do is to just keep your distance from both, and concentrate on yourself.
Alcoholism is a family disease and the whole family needs to heal.
