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My sleep has been limited so I had a minor break last night. I was feeling empty-minded and felt a break coming on. Stress & lack of good sleep can really ruin a good healthy program. I am again being reminded to detach from other people's problems. Like my mom for instance. She had a bad experience at a restaurant and got kicked out. There again, not my problem. I just feel sorry for her & realize there is nothing I can do. Also, a friend, long-distance, is having relationship issues. There is really nothing I can do but pray for her and give her moral support. She is struggling with letting go & feeling betrayed. I love her & only want the best but she must move on. I am too involved in other peoples' business. I do not recommend this at all. Long time in the program does not mean I can help everyone but I can be a good support system & a good listener. I hope I make sense. Someone please respond with your ESH. I love you all! Kathleen
Just wanted to say I know where you are... I know that feeling and your right... You need to step back and give yourself some space from thier problems.. I know that you want to help them and all you can help them do is be comfortable with the desision they make to run thier own lives...
You have your own life to live, and tho you feel for them you must look after your self... Keep coming back, and keep let'n it out, You will return to your self in no time...
Friends in Recovery... Missing
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
Hey how the heck did two of us get into the same pair of shoes?
So we have the same diagnosis...try to get some good sleep with too many people shuffling around in our bed/head.
I've gotta use prescrips for now and meditation and membership feedback and of course continuing to "turn it over...don't take it back...turn it over...don't take it back...turn it over again and just let them go!!
Part of the problem now is that I have convinced myself that tired as I maybe I will loose the struggle to get there with out prescrips. On one hand I am grateful as hell for the docs and on the other had very watchful for consequences other than sleep.
I'll be able to get there (unaided sleep) without synthetics in the future I am positive. Do what works for you best cause rest is the most health supportive...mind, body, spirit and emotions.
I hope you can get some good rest Kathleen. It is so tempting to help and fix everyone we love!!! I know I wish I could but I simply cannot know what is best for them- only HP/God knows what is best for them so I choose to leave it with HP who has WAY more ability and insight than I do! I trust HP with more and more and experience more and more serenity. I feel like I could almost retire from controlling my life some days, its so good to put it all in HP's hands. Hugs and much love, J.
