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i have not posted in a while..... but tonight i need to get this out.....telling folks who understand and know only to well what i feel. ah has just been fired fron his job..... stealing money out of some ones wallet , how low can a person get. i know this was out of my control,but still i feel shame. im left to pick up the pieces ...yet again ollie xx
Deep breathes would most likely be a good start... I do know that feeling of shame, and giult even tho you know it was them that took it... Most of it Embarresment... My Abrother did the say, and when you come from a small town, well they all look at you like you did it!!!
But... The reality of it all is true... He has to live with what he did, just as you have to live with the choices you make, but putting your focus back on yourself, and detaching yourself from his newest "Problem" is better going to put you in a place you can deal better. Losing your cool and wigging you will not make his decissions any better... Take one day at a time, and if you have any F2F near by may be a good night to hit one!
You came to the right place, so keep coming back....
Friends in Recovery.... Missing
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
In early program that one would have put me in high orbit before the reality set it. Missings response was part of what I was also taught. That is one of the many gifts that worked for me also. The consequences can be scarey considering the times and HP is here all the time anyway.
Whoa there olle u didn't steal the money , no reason for you to feel shame . this is hubbys problem he can find another job and pay it back . How low can u go ??? wellllll a practicing A will do anything to get what they need , that is the disease not the man . Leave the problem with him where it belongs this is his mess to fix not yours .His behavior is not a reflection on you . Louise (hugs)
I know the shame, too. Hurts a lot, I know. Made me nuts. Not any more and you know why? Because I have a program!!! A sponsor once told me this when I was crying to her- "you have choices now. You have a program now. Use it." Hugs, J.
thank you for your lovely replies. i guess i still get shocked at what they are capable of.....why i dont know . in 8 yrs he has managed to lose everything,i know i have come along way....i hate this. love to all ollie x
