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As in the past update..my b/f finally went to detox, picked up and taken by VA social workers. didn't originally want to go after drinking for 15 days. He had me bring ciggs and candy which i did. went in last Thurday even though he didn't want to pay for it. He was released today. I just got home from work and he was already drinking. not a week later but hours.......I think he has a death wish really! why would anyone do that? not the first time. I know your not suppose to react or say certain things, but I have a real hard time ignoring this..it has been going on 7yrs. Is this not insane? I had been planning on us sitting down and talking but guess not. I have not changed my mind about leaving as i know it is for the best, at least for me, Do i worry about what will happen to him if i do since i am the only working or solber person he knows? yes i will but am more worried about my sanity if i stay in this insane life much longer. I have given my all and tried so very hard to wait and see, maybe next time will be the last, but that is not going to happen i believe ever, he will die from this it is a matter of time. i have a hard time getting to regular meetings as most are when i work so am thankful for all of you and your support. thank you. will check in again i am sure soon. Mary
I remember asking the "WHY" questions myself. I remember being clue- less completly and I remember that the many of the questions found answers and many just didn't stay important after a while. That "a while" was spent in the program, reading as much literature on alcoholism as I could get my hands on and listening to every share on experience, strength and hope that I could get in front of. It is crazy trying to live in the disease of alcoholism without information. The disease is defined as "Cunning, Powerful and Baffling". Don't you agree?
The meeting rooms of Al-Anon is often considered the very best treatment for the insanity of living in the disease of alcoholism. I pray you get there as soon as your can. MIP can help support your recovery.
((((Mary)))) Like Jerry, I remember and still have days with the questions. I have come to a place that I know now that HP will answer my questions, IF I listen (I ignore Him sometimes if I don't like the answer I have found), but the answers will all come in time, His time, not ours. Sometimes we have to just sit and wait I have learned (another thing I am horrible at)
please take care of u~ keep coming back we love you here Shellyj123
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Well an alcoholic does that that's who keeps on drinking no matter what. For some people the bottom is indeed death. I have been to lots of AA meetings though and I have to say many people have a lot of bottoms but they do get sober.
I am concerned for you. Please use our chat room. There is usually some one there. There are also other on line Al anon sites that are very helpful. In fact I could spend all day on al anon sites and feel productive because I am always learning.
Believe me I know what it is to watch someone destroy themselves. Turning it over is the only solution. We do that in steps one two and three. Turning it over takes the pressure off us to "fix" them and brings us back to our own responsibility to take care of ourselves. How are you at that?
I know I am not that good at taking care of me and I've been trying. Some days it is a complete mystery to me.
