oops...reposted by mistake.  Maybe it's good that I write something....I just spent most of the day with my ex ABF.  We decided that space and time is good or us right now.  He said he understood that I couldn't trust him right now and that he wants to gain that back.  He also said he knew that he had to focus on himself and he hoped I would focus on myself too.  I feel kind of like the universe is playing a dirty trick on me....I wanted for so long for him to "get it" and I had to leave for that to happen....now that he seems as though he's finally getting it...we're not together....huh?  I told him that I thought it was better if we didn't call each other Boyfriend and gilrfriend and he understood.  Who is this guy that actually listens to what I'm saying and understands what I'm feeling?  I'm going to another Al anon meeting in the morning....I think I found someone to be my sponsor.  The hardest part right now is that my family thinks I should have nothig to do with him but they have no experience with alcoholism and of course I know they just want the best for me.  But I'm very close with my famly and do't like to keep stuff from them.  Any of you have experience with family members that think you should stay far far away from the A in your life?  "he doesn't deserve you.....you could do so much better....alcoholism is a part of who he is....whatever you do NEVER get back together with him....He'll never get better.....he's just fooling you again...etc"  These are just a few of the unsolicited words of advice from family members.  How do I deal with this? 

Thanks for all your words of support from my last post.  It truly does help to know that others have been through this.
-reef