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carolinagirl


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I failed to mention that my new boyfriend has an alcoholic father and this is the main reason that he has chosen to never drink.  So I have been smoking lately and he'd like me to quit....  He made a few statements that really opened my eyes to what I did with the A.  I hear it with new ears now of course and I know that he is only doing it because he loves me and wants me to be healthy but I had to tell him, I'm not quitting for anyone but myself so love me the way I am or leave me.  He chose love me... LOL  But it was real eye opener to me to see how that feels and to be able to recognize what was happening as it unfolded.  I have decided I'm going to try not to think too much about all this relationship stuff and just take the advice of my wise friends and enjoy the ride and see where it goes.  At least this time I'm going in with my eyes open. 

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(carolinagirl) You said, "At least this time I'm going in with my eyes open". Also remember "Don't Blink". Keep working the program.

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Ha! I, too, know what it feels like to be on the receiving end and I don't like it very much either! Reminds me of the quote, "If you wanna make an enemy, try to change someone."

I was also thinking of something I had heard here once, how appropriate it would be to substitute the word "accept" for "love" as in "I love you." How nice it would be to hear, "I accept you."

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Oh Lord! This takes me back. I used to smoke a good deal of pot when I was a kid. I started dating another kid who was fresh out of rehab (we were maybe 16) and he told me to quit smoking pot because he couldn't be around me if I continued. So, I quit like a good co-dependant. I mean, he was way more important than me and my desires (which were not good for me but they were mine). As soon as we split up, I went right back to smoking pot and continued until my husband said "if you don't quit, I will leave you" and so I quit.

I never picked up again after that. I was way more addicted to people than I ever was to drugs.

But because of this program, I have grown and changed and I put myself first and I do not change for other people.

You rock CG and I am so glad you are happy!

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I'm not quitting for anyone but myself so love me the way I am or leave me. 

Did my AHsober give you that line?  lol

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