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So, I sent my AH an email telling him that I loved him sooooo much, but, that I was not moving back under his " I'll party once in a while" conditions and that I didn't want and couldn't learn how to handle him when his wasted. I guess that pissed him off, cause he hasn't called me. I know it was the right thing to do, because he was talking about moving back and yadayadayada and I know nothing has changed and is too soon. But I'm also so scared and sad. I know it's ok to express how I feel and what I want, but I guess after 7 years of doing what HE wants, it's just hard to do that and not feel like I did something wrong. I'm also sad, cause this last couple of weeks we've been going out and talking (he's sober when he comes over) and I just missed THAT guy so much!!! I guess setting boundaries is scary for me.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
Well good for you for setting boundrys... That puts you taking care of you... Boundrys are tough, I to am working on a few myself with my Abrother... But honestly..It truly is making us stronger.. He is responding "Finally" and my heart isn't near as heavy as it has been in the past when I walk away from him...In the beginning it was pretty tough, but once I stood my ground, he is now willing to work with me, and do what he has to to survive... Your HP will help you get there... One Day at A Time... I don't know if you have face to face in your area or not, but they are great when the for support, as is of course MIP... Keep coming back... Thats the main thing... It will not always be this diffacult, and it will get better...
Have Faith... Missing
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
