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I cant stop crying. I dont understand why this hurts so much. Mark (the A in my life) has left me. Two days before my University interview thank you very much mark. I should be happy he has gone after everything thats happend I shoud be glad. Am I normal to be unset he has gone. This has eally messed with my head.
Hello Distraught Mourning the death of a relationship is the most normal thing in the world. The only way out of the grief is to go through it. Cry as much as you want and then do something good for yourself to get ready for the next step in your life. It sounds like you have an important career move on the horizon - that is yours - do that for you - noone can ever take away your knowledge or success. That is something positive to focus on. All the best and hugs
I think what you are experiencing is quite normal. The end of a relationship does not come easy, but beware of allowing the tag of guilt to be attached to this breakup. GO on to University, meet new people, make new friendships, hold your head high, and smile. There is a big, new, wonderful world out there waiting for you to join in.
Best wishes, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I think it's totally normal. Even though I knew my marriage was over three years before we called it quits, I was still very depressed and upset at the finality. If it was easy to walk away, I don't think I would have agonized over it the way I did. It will pass. It did for me. It just hurt while I was in it.
Im really trying to be strong for the kids. In side I want to cry and scream. I just keep taking deep breaths and keep carrying on. Leah has asked where daddy is and I told her he has gone to stay withgrandma. I dont know if she understood, she probably just thinks he has gone to work. I cant wait for bed time so I can have a good cry. My insides hurt so bad. I knew for a long time it was only going to end this way but it still hurts like you said JenM.
The A who I was with "left" me all the time too. He would do it when the stress was on. He could not "be there". You are not alone in having to deal with this. Know you have a good supportive, loving group here to lean on. Hope you manage to get to our chat room it is awesome and a great place to find solace.
Cry as much as you need to. My AHsober left after 30 years of marrriage. He threatened to leave our whole marriage. It is sad. Especially for the children. Consider it all a part of the disease. He always created chaos when I needed him the most. Studying for my master's - he said I want a divorce. My shoulder surgery - he was nowhere to be found. Know that you can take care of yourself. Look to other people for help and your higher power.
