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Codependent


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Went to Celebrate Recovery last night and small group on Codependency 12 steps.  A couple of weeks ago I got the book and the co facilitator told me I didn't have to pay then that I could pay in a couple of weeks or never.  Anyway, last night I went to the group and the facilitator noting I had a book asked if I had paid not.  I said no.  She said she likes to keep up with that sort of thing so I wrote her a check and dated it for 1/30 as I do not have the money in my acct right now.  Part of me must admit that I think I was trying to get away without paying the 16 dollars as money is tight.  If she had not asked I probably would never have come forth with a check.  Yet, her asking me, when we had just discussed the money my A stole rubbed me the wrong way.  Guess that makes me stingy and sensitive! ha.  I don't want this to be her fault either as I want to really like her and already feel I am harboring resentment from this comment.  Would love any feed back.  Thanks!

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debilyn


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I would have asked to speak to her later.Then in private remind her of your situation and what she had told you.

To me it is again,taking care of our self. Not easy huh?

My power company tacked on a huge over four hundred dollar deposit with out even telling me! I had not had it in my name for two years.

I was very upset.Called them,the guy was a butthead. I asked to talk to his supervisor.She called me and canceled the deposit!

It was so freeing when I realized I had a voice and began protecting me.

hugs hon, sure is great to see you doing so well. love,debilyn

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Jerry F


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Aloha Code!!

That's how I use to feel when I got "caught" also.  Scramble for a solution
and try to react in a way they don't notice and try to keep my conscience
supressed.  Funny how your guilt included your alcoholic.  I relate soooo
closely to that.  Sometimes I still don't see the picture right and end up
not doing the right thing for the wrong reason. 

I'm sure you're not going to use the book for anything but recovery. As
for honesty...you did that pretty well here.  Thanks

(((((hugs))))) smile

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maresie


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Well you could do as Debilyn suggested.  If I don't have the money I don't write post dated checks.
I think you also did a great job on honesty.  Building a support system for yourself will take time.
Maresie.

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