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luvinmom


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I cannot belive how this program is changing my perception.  Here's the deal, was studying about step 3 "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a HP".

I was really having a hard time accepting that. At first glance it seemed to fly in the face over everything I had been taught, everything I believe, the way I conduct both my personal and proffessional life.  What makes human beings different from animal is that we choose.  We can change we can be what ever we want.  I admire the courage and fortitude of my parents who raised 6 kids, stretched a dollar farther then I ever knew it could,  our lives were so much better than theirs.  I take pride in being a self made person.

Every hurdle can be overcome, there is a solution to every puzzle if you work long enough, hard enough and are willing to vary approach. Never give up, never surrender. It doesn't matter what you have to start out with in life, you choose your happiness or unhappiness.  Life is what you make it.  My mom's creedo was "God helps those who help themselves".  So why would I turn my life over to him?????  Why shouldn't I tackle all the problems of my AS?

Then I heard the words again...God helps thosewho help themselves.

Its not God helps those that I help.  If I'm helping them, they don't need their higher power to help them.

Its not God helps me to help others....no....its a direct line God to a person.    And if I stop "helping" my son, and pain comes, God will hear his cries and come.  With me out of the way, my son will be able to reach out and embrace his HP.  I get it!

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RLC


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(luvinmom) Your perception was so on target, not to mention your ESH. Sometimes when I think I got it, I read a post like yours and I get it again, and stated in such a beautiful way.

Thanks luvinmom, great post.

HUGS,
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Jean4444


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This is an awesome post! Thanks so much, I really needed to read this this AM! What a great way to start my day- thanks luvinmom!! Hugs, J.

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maresie


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I have to personally remember some people never embrace sobriety.  I do firmly think that we are all here on God's time.

Maresie.

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luvinmom


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Maresie,
you're right, thanks for keeping expectations in check. Some people never get well. I know my son's HP will be there, and my son may be more likely to reach out if I am not in the way. Way to check expectations so that I don't put undue pressure on self or him.

Thanks for the POV

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Luvinmom...

Thank You for your share... I will most likely come back and read it serveral times just to remind myself... The whole detachment of them and the excepting of my HP... I know he exists, I know he is with me... I am working slowly to let it all up to him... Thanks for your thoughts, and thanks so much for sharing...

Love & Hugs...
Missing Out

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