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Rora


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Today my aH wanted to tangle, not to be confused with Tango, which would have been interesting as well, but on a whole other level. confuse
aH in all his unstabilities allowed me many opportunities to enter into irrational, meaningless, fruitless battles with him, over a multitude of issues.  Not once did I. 
I needed to have communication with him about our son and his visitation schedule.  I kept reverting the conversation to the point and topic without reacting to his acusations, desperate attempts for attention, etc.
I felt sad about his emotional state and asked HP to embrace him and care for him thru this and ME TOO!
I am going to my first f2f meeting in a long time and I'm feeling good about that.

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nmike


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Hurray Rora. That is my goal too. To not tangle. After all these years I am learning what the pattern is. I hope to have compassion for my AHsober.

In support,
Nancy

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Jerry F


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Mahalo Nui (Thanks Much) Rora!!

So that's how its done and thats how you get happy.  Awesome.
Don't Tango/Tangle, have compassion and empathy, turn yourself and
him over to your HP and go to a meeting with other family members.

I can practice that!!

Keep coming back and bringing your miracles with you.!!

(((((((hugs))))))) smile

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shellyj123


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(((((Rora)))))
    thanks so much for your share......have a GREAt f2f meeting.....they are really awesome.......

shellyj123

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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!

Only God can turn a mess into a message.

Prayin' on it, Stayin' on it, I will survive it.

If nothing ever changes, nothing ever changes.
maresie


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What a great way to put it.  I can get totally lost in alice in wonderland in a second.

Maresie

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luvinmom


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You sure you don't mean Tango? LOL Your post so matches up with what someone said at my Alanon meeting yesterday about the "dance of co-dependacy". Sounds like he was trying to get you to "dance" and you wisely declined to "join in" good for you!

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Karilynn


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((((((Rora))))),

As someone always reminded me: the sun is always shining somewhere.  There is a light at the end of the dark tunnel.  You just have to keep walking toward it.  You're doing great.  Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile



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