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this is from a file that I keep, hopefully they will help you too (I was urged to share this). teh format is a lil jumbled but you'll get the jist.
LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN
Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan
LET HIS NAME BE ERASED~ JEWISH PRAYER TO RELEASE *EVIL DOERS/ ACTIONS
6 GUIDELINES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES
HAVE CLEARLY DEFINED EXPECTATIONS.
CLEARLY DEFIENED CONSEQUENCES THAT DONT DISRUPT YOUR SERENITY.
SET THEM CLEARLY.
COMMUNICATE THEM CLEARLY.
ENFORCE THEM CONSISTENTLY
WITHOUT REGARD FOR THE RELATIONSHIP (RELEASE ANY EXPECTATIONS)
SAY WHAT U MEAN & DONT SAY IT MEANLY
QTIP QUIT TAKING IT PERSONALLY
GTS THE GETTING THEM SOBER CLUBFIRST THINGS FIRST LOVE YOURSELFEASY DOES IT
ONE DAY AT A TIME ODAT
LIVE & LET LIVETHINKLISTEN AND LEARNKEEP AN OPEN MINDUSE IT OR LOSE ITFAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE ITLET IT BEGIN WITH MEFEEL GOOD ABOUT SAYING NO (OR SETTING BOUNDARIES)BE HONEST, THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREETOGETHER WE CAN MAKE ITIT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT SO, KCB KEEP COMING BACKBUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD(THERE GO I - IT COULD BE ME)
JUST FOR TODAY
1.I WILL USE MY PROGRAMHALTFEAR
I WILL BE GOOD TO MYSELF & RELAXHungry?HONESTLYFuture
I WILL BE UNAFRAIDAngry/Anxious?ACTIVELYEvents
I WILL BE GRATEFULLonely?LOVINGLYArent
I WILL APPRECIATE MYSELF & OTHERSTired?TOLERANTReal
I WILL BE LOVING & KIND
I WONT CRITICIZE & WORK ON MYSELF
I WILL TACKLE THIS DAY & THIS DAY ALONE, LEAVING THE FUTURE WHERE IT IS
I WILL STUDY TO STRENGTHEN MY MIND
10. I WILL STRETCH & STRENGTHEN MY BEAUTIFUL BODY11. I WILL MEDITATE12. I WILL BE HAPPY13. I WILL LOVE MYSELF, TRULY & GENTLY14. I WILL ATTEND MEETINGS ON-LINE REGULARLY15. I WILL SURRENDER TO GOD16. I WILL COMMUNE WITH GOD IN PRAYERS17. I WILL PRAISE & THANK GOD
Let the Understanding, Peace, & Love of the Program work in YOU each day.Take what you like & leave the rest.You cannot expect different results without different actions behaviors.
Progress not perfection.PhD:Patience, Peace, hope, Direction, Determination 20 QuestionsDo you worry about how much someone else drinks? Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking? Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? Do you feel that if the drinker cared about you, he or she would stop drinking to please you? Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions? Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker? Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"? Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout? Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior? Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking? Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse? Do you search for hidden alcohol? Do you ever ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking? Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety? Do you feel like a failure because you can't control the drinking? Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problemswould be solved? Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker? Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time? Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems? If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen* may help you.
Slogans
~ Easy Does It ~ Keep It Simple ~ How Important Is It? ~ First Things First ~ Live And Let Live ~ ~ One Day At A Time ~ Let Go And Let God ~ But For The Grace Of God, there go I ~ Think! Listen And Learn ~ ~ Keep An Open Mind ~ Let It Begin With Me ~ Together We Can Make It ~ Be Honest ~ Keep Coming Back ~ ~ Feel Good About Saying "No" ~ Fake It 'Till You Make It! ~ Use It Or Lose It ~ ~ Talk And Grow ~ Let Go & Let God ~ How Important is it? ~ Is it worth my Serenity ~ Whats to Be will Be ~ We Are all Different
Alanon's Three C's: Alcoholism: You didn't CAUSE it, You can't CONTROL it, and You can't CURE it! 3 C's ~ You Can Control Yourself, You Can Change Yourself, You Can Cure Yourself3 A's ~ Awareness, Acceptance, ActionANGELS EXIST but some times, since they don't all have wings, we call them FRIENDS.
This Too Shall Pass
Say what you mean but don't say it meanly.~Expectations are premeditated resentments. "A's pick up the bottle alanons pick up people."~ Take the blame out of me & all u get is bla bla bla. "If HP brings you to it, HP will walk you through it." ~ "Change your attitude change your life. Insanity is doing the same things over an expecting different results. Dont go to the hardware store for bread. My serenity is proportionate to my acceptance. Recovery is self-discovery. Happiness & knowledge increase only as we share it with others. Change my attitude, change my life. EGO - Edging God Out ~ Courage is fear that has said its prayers. ~ Progress not Perfection.
FEAR ~ Future Events Aren't Real
YANA ~ you Are Not Alone HELP ~ Help/Heal Ourselves/Others Purge Emptiness MYOB ~ Mind My Own Business FAITH ~ Finding Answers In The Heart HALT(S) ~ Hungry Anxious/Angry Lonely Tired Sick &/or Honestly Actively Lovingly Tolerant ANGER ~ A Negative Grudge Endangers Recovery QTIP ~ Quit Taking It PersonallyPUSH ~ Pray Until Something Happens FINE ~ F**ked Up Insecure Neurotic THINK ~ THOUGHTFUL HONEST INTELLIGENT NECESSARY KIND &/or THANK HEAVEN I NOW KNOW GIFTS ~ Getting It From The Steps ASK ~ Ask Seek Knock HEART ~ Healing Enjoying And Recovering Together HOPE ~ Happy Our Program Exists ~ healing/helping ourselves purge emptiness GOD ~ Good Orderly Direction JADE ~ (dont) Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain COOL ~ CREATIVE OPPORTUNITIES OFFER LOVE FROG ~ fully relying on god DETACH ~ dont ever think about changing him/her &/or dont even try and change others NOW ~ No opportunity wasted. "My serenity is proportionate to my acceptance." "You can't control the wind but you can set your sails." "The mind is like a parachute, it works best when open." "Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with Your Divine Plan." "Listen not to criticisms or accolades both take you off your path." A. Einstein "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." B. Franklin If you are looking in the past or the future, you're not living in the now. The present is a gift. The gift is now. Live for today. Live for each and every new moment. Be gentle with yourself.Fight for yourself, you are worth it, if you dont who will? Let it begin with me: When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help - let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and - Let it Begin With Me.
In recovery were all like infants, first we crawl then we can stand. We take steps & learn to walk before we can run free.
FACE IT: Become aware of the thinking/behaviour that is a problem TRACE IT: Try to establish where you think it comes from and why EMBRACE IT: Accept that you did the best you could with what you had at the time but it no longer needs to be that way. Forgive yourself. ERASE IT: The thinking/behaviour no longer serves your best interests. To erase it, ask God to remove your shortcomings. Refuse to participate in the same thinking and behaviour patterns. You may 'slip' from time to time but thats ok, it's a process and it's about progress not perfection. REPLACE IT: Nothing exists in a vacuum therefore if you remove something you need to put something else in it's place. Where possible fill the void with Gods love. You can replace negative thinking/behaviour with positive, healthy responses. Use the tools of the program. Sometimes we try something new and it doesn't work out for us, that's ok too, just try something different. fee, deal, heal "Fear is a dark room for developing negatives." "Stress is incompatible with serentiy." 'What you focus on grows."
-- Edited by kitty at 17:32, 2009-01-13
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Kitty, I just wanted you to know I printed off your post, made twelve copies and passed them out at my Tuesday Al-Anon Meeting. Everyone loved them. Thanks.
HUGS, RLC
P.S. Yes I did give you the credit. Aren't you proud of me. LOL
I just loved your notebook! Thanks for all of the reminders. I had a few laughs reading them and remembering when I first heard some of the sayings in my home group.
