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Even though it has been rough here lately with preparing for court and all, and the day we went to court was one of the most scarey days in my life, it is over now.
My daughter and I are closer now since court is over and we have talked, she finally opened up to me about what has been bothering her and her concerns. She frequently hugs me now and tells me she loves me and I do the same in return.
Even though she rejected me and said she wanted to live with her dad, we worked out a good plan so we can both stay in her life and she is okay with the plan. She is not upset about it.
We had a great Sunday. We went to a big waterfall in our area. We took plenty of pictures and videos. We acted goofy and had a good time. We both seemed to also benefit from not having to exchange her on Sunday like we used to. I now take her to school on Monday morning. We were able to just relax all evening and it was nice.
I think it was such a big burden for all of us before court it was just too much and very emotional. I am now free from having to worry about those things and have more serenity in my life.
I am now applying alanon tools even more and it is a great help. One of the main things is for me to try and stay in the moment, especially with my daughter. I also do my best at not nagging at her (many of u know it happens with kids).
She even came to me Sunday while I was doing dishes and she was supposed to be in bed but got back up. She said she wants to help me more now around the house, offered to help with the dishes but it was her bedtime, so I said next time she can help. It felt so good that she offered her help.
I am now able to pay more attention to the little things in life. She has also improved in math, went from an F to an A within a few weeks. I know her worries and concerns reflected in her school work. I think we are on a path of recovery and I hope our relationship will continue to improve.
Congratulations Buick! Wow, I remember getting my daughter back in small glimpses after she began recovery. It took awhile, but eventually the daughter I raised and once knew was back! And with it was a new found relationship with mother and daughter. The best part for me has been talking the talk with her (12 step talk). It sounds like you still have good motherly boundaries too :) Keep up the good work! cdb
That is awesome you have worked on some issues & it has already relieved & improved so much in your relationship w/ your daughter.
What I've noticed in my program, is the more I apply the tools actively in my life, the more areas I see the benefit in which to use the Program. It truly is a miraculous life saver in all of our lives. Way to work it!
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