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my husband smokes dope on our balcony. he does this when our daughter is either in her room or in the bath/shower. he will often encourage her to disappear, in a way that she isnt aware. of course i know the games that he is playing. i often divert her so that she doesnt find him. i think that im protecting her. Am I? do i let her catch him? he nearly got caught the other day and shortly afterwoods, went straight back out there. his addiction is obviously getting stronger as he is taking more risks. i have asked him what he will say to her when does eventually find out and he just shruggs his shoulders. what to do?
Have you thought of setting a boundary and asking/telling him not to do it at all in the house, even if it is on the balcony? Kids are alot more savy than we give them credit for. As careful as you are, and as careful as he thinks he is, the odds of her catching him are going to increase as his addiction increases. I don't know if you are consciously aiding his addiction. I think that might be a consequence of you just trying to be a good parent and protect your child. You have some decisions to make. You'll make the one that is in the best interest of you and your child.
Remember recovery is about you and for you. It's about taking back your life and living the life you so richly deserve. It's about living strong. It has to be about you and for you regardless if he chooses sobriety or not. It's about doing what is best for you and your daughter. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
well tonight i told him that its no longer acceptable for him to smoke in or around the home. i told him that i dont give a .... about his addiction and if thats what he chooses to do i have no control over it. but i do control my life our children and wont stand for it anymore. im going away for 6 days on wed, and he has some thinking to do while we are gone. thanks to you and this programme im finding so much strenght and its happening really fast. i do think that im a strong person but feel that my love for him has blinded me for a long time on right and wrong. thank you for saying to me that im trying to be a good parent. i love my two kids and would do anything for them and would like to think that im a good parent. your words of encouragement really helped me. thankyou.
