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I have a younger sister who is an alcoholic. A few nights ago my older sister was telling me that she thinks it is worse than what we know because she was speaking with younger sister's husband. She was in a panic and told me we need to do something. I was getting angry as I have been in Alanon long enough that I know there is nothing we can do but be there if she wants us there for support. I told her "if there was something I could do about her drinking I would have done it already with my son". My older sister is such a control freak. She does not want my sister to be an A. Isn't that a joke? She doesn't want to be embarrassed by her like she was by our dad.
I am so happy that I understand aism more now. Yes, younger sister gets on my nerves when she drinks but I have nothing but compassion for her now. Doesn't mean I want to be around her when she is drinking but that is my choice and that is older sister's choice too.
I believe control, resentment, manipulation are part of the disease. For me its all about do I get hooked in. I can very very easily so i really limit severely the amount of time I spend around any active alcoholic.
Nice work Gailey! Your program is really shining through! And I can see not only compassion for your A sister but for your other sister, too- and that is one of the miracles- our hearts get bigger for everyone around us. what a gift you are here on this board. I am so glad to be walking this path near you and thanks for your post. Hugs, J.
Well done. I am proud of you. I too choose not to engage in my sister's problems. Her and her husband are both need of some serious recovery. Unfortunately for her, her sister in law feels the same way according to my niece. I tried desperately for years to get her into Alanon, but "she doesn't have the time." I finally gave up and turned her over to her HP. Like you, when and if she chooses recovery I will be there cheering her on. For now, I have planted the Alanon seed in my niece and she is very receptive to it. You have been a great example to me of how this program works. You are an inspiration. Thanks for being part of my family here. You're a treasure. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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I have a younger sister who is an alcoholic. A few nights ago my older sister was telling me that she thinks it is worse than what we know because she was speaking with younger sister's husband. She was in a panic and told me we need to do something. I was getting angry as I have been in Alanon long enough that I know there is nothing we can do but be there if she wants us there for support. I told her "if there was something I could do about her drinking I would have done it already with my son". My older sister is such a control freak. She does not want my sister to be an A. Isn't that a joke? She doesn't want to be embarrassed by her like she was by our dad.