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Happy New Year, Everyone and Blessings for 2009. I am grateful for MIP for the two years of participation I have done, the great responses I have had. I feel as if I know so many of you personally!!
Essentially, my life is as "normal" and "positive" as one would expect with the -ism of my only child, the ups and downs of his family situation/divorce, and my cancer and my spouse's illness. The first two problems I have learned so much on how to deal....to stay out of everything I can, to ask no questions, to give no advice, etc. Most of the time, it works. I have become more adept at turning everything over to HP and letting that mighty spirit work in our lives.
On the health issues, much harder, but still Al-Anon principles apply. ODAT, Acceptance, Seeking serenity, Changing only that which I can, Recognizing what that looks like.......I am recovering from wound infection from my six week ago surgery for second cancer recurrence. Very sick over holiday and still undergoing treatment. Spouse has been told his kidney stones have already reformed in nine weeks and that he is at the end of any potential treatment except drastic one....urinary diversion. That means ureters diverted through bowel and he wears a bag permanently. Right now he says that looks better to him than what he is currently suffering...a lot with pain, infection, and general ill health. We have been referred and will know within the month if this is a viable treatment for him. Anyway, we do our best.
Wondering if any of you actually made any resolutions. I keep trying to formulate a few, but am refusing to find two I can actually make work!!! Just interested in others' takes on resolutions. I think it interesting to hear what is on your minds!! Have a great day on this second one of 2009.
Two years! Isn't it amazing? As someone who has been here reading your posts for that time let me just say to you that I have seen so much growth in you! It is so good for me to know that you are trying to keep more of the focus on you and your hubby's health issues and letting HP take more of a role in dealing with your son, grandchild and son's ex.
Resolutions! I resolved not to make any this year!
Welllll......beyond the standing resolutions I have had for the last 5 new year's.
1. Try to unwrap the gift of each day that my HP gives to me, which to me also translates to "one day at a time".
2. Have gratitude for all that I am given.
3. Not to let Fear control how I live my life.
4. Keep going to meetings and continue to give service.
5. Smile and Laugh often.
And by and large, all those add up to one thing really...try to live by the principals of the al-anon program to the best of my ability!
May 2009 be blessed for you too, joyoma. I am glad you are part of our family.
I am so very sorry to hear of your husbands condition. That truly sounds like a very drastic alternative. I am also sorry to hear you have had a wound infection. As someone who once had a life threatening infection I can imagine that is truly difficult to deal with. You certainly have had your hands full.
What a gift you have made your program. I also try to stay out of other's affairs. I do so with lots of boundaries. I really try to keep the focus on me and my life and find it hard going. I feel like I am climbing a mountain on many days.
Aloha Joyoma...2 years!! I am as surprised as David and then...time does pass on doesn't it?
My resolutions. I will return to a daily affirming prayer regimine. I will work to overcome my prcrastination and looking for excuses to isolate. I will smile more and exercise my inner happiness. I will continue to suppress my anger with the program knowing that the causes are resentments and lack of acceptance. I will continue to keep all of my family, friends and associates and their lives in front of my Higher Power and I will check that I am walking with in HP's sight constantly.
It's mostly continuing to practice what I've been taught when I got here.
Love in the New Year and Blessings to you, your husband and son.
Isn't it amazing? As someone who has been here reading your posts for that time let me just say to you that I have seen so much growth in you! It is so good for me to know that you are trying to keep more of the focus on you and your hubby's health issues and letting HP take more of a role in dealing with your son, grandchild and son's ex.
