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This was my 2nd Christmas without the A. I'm really having to look at that its going to be a long haul to really get on my feet with solid ground under them. Of course in my magical thinking I want to believe that everything was going to wonderful if I willed in that way. On some levels everything is good, I'm healthy. I'm working my way through lots of issues. I have a great therapist. I have a understanding of what I want to do. I just want someone or something to come along and solve all my problems. Guess what that's what got me stuck with the A. When he met me there wasn't anything he wouldn't do for me for about a month. Then he stopped. I kept trying to get the person back who I first met. I am not sure he even existed, it was a way to get me hooked in now I think.
These days my boundaries are so polished. I set limits. I'm no longer willing ot be around obnoxious horrible people. I deal with my roommates I don't try to be friends with them. I am no longer a consummate people pleaser.
I'm looking forward to next week when the holiday is over. I hope this time next year that my life will be better and the holidays won't be something to endure rather than relax into. I know this program has done great great things for me. I just feel its tough that for me personally there is so much work ahead to get into a more solid position. However long it takes is as long as it takes.
Hello Maresie.... I have been with that A in my life, and I understand how they tear down your walls and take away your inner you... But after going thru a slue of A's ... I finally met my mate for life... And for me I never thought that would happen... You will pull thru and realize for yourself and others that you deserve more then that... And it sounds as tho this program has been a help to you. I hope to get the same comfort from it myself... I am a Newby.... Soooo I have a long way to go... so maybe our paths will cross again, and if you ever want to chat... or let something out.... feel free to let me know... I hope to find the confidense to ask for help, becauses this is a first for me in 35 years, and I am try'n just don't know how long I can... cross'n my fingers I am in it for the long hall... (((Maresie)))
thanks for sharing... Missing out
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
Gosh, it seems as if we work on several "issues" and we look up and there is a line of at least 100 more "issues" to work on. Geez! I have taken to journaling everything that I am thinking and feeling. I haven't found anyone to talk to (without feeling worse afterwards), so I have to get it out by writing it out. It' so lonely, too.
