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hi, i'm new here i found the online meeting room by accident and they led me here. My husband is an alcoholic. He's looking at going to treatment. He also says he doesn't love me anymore. We have 2 kids ages 2.5 and 8; and 2 cats! I'm sad all the time and am feeling lost so i'm glad i found this place. I can relate to a lot of posts which is nice so I don't feel so alone. Life seems so hopeless right now and I'm having a hard time coping. Anyways, thanks for listening.
Might not have been an accident that caused you to reach MIP. You will find so much love and support here as you come back and participate with everyones' recovery. Don't take too personally what the alcoholic tells you because alcohol messes up the mind, body, spirit and emotions pretty completely. As for not loving you...They pretty well don't love anything after a while including themselves. Being a drunk for any period of time isn't a very lovable character for many.
However if he gets into recovery and sticks with it and takes the simple yet serious suggestion that they will give him like suggestions we will give you, miracles will happen. I've witnessed hundreds of them happen to hundreds of people.
Keep coming back, go to face to face meetings, read the program literature, learn and work the steps. Find a power greater than yourself and a sponsor to walk the program with you and watch what happens along the way.
My heart reaches out to you in your loneliness and sadness and when you are feeling unloved, come here and feel the love that is extended by this wonderful family. I love you as will so many others in this family.
We have all experienced that feeling of being unloved or unloveable at some stage or other. Alcohol is NOT particular about the effects and the hurts and the wounds it inflicts on those around it and those who abuse it.
Your husband probably feels just as unloved and his ONLY possible love right now with be for the alcohol which will numb his feelings for any other being, including himself, so take the love this family can offer you at this time and keep on coming back.
We are here for you. Take the wisdom of the members of this family and hold on to the Serenity Prayer and believe in the higher power that is your salvation.
Love being willed into your heart right now. Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
Although you are feeling lost in this situation, know that you can come here any time for experience, strength and hope. Whether you are feeling good or bad, everyone will accept you - I have learned that first-hand.
I'm sorry your AH says that he doesn't love you. It must be very hurtful to hear that at this time. Perhaps this is just the right time to learn how to love yourself more so that you can be all you want to be for your two kids and two cats.
Keep coming back and sharing and I would also suggest attending a face-to-face meeting if you can, although that may be hard with a little one? I started in Al-Anon by posting here, however I found that I grew even more and made a lot of progress by attending the face-to-face meetings.
the ex A who I was with for 7 years regularly did really hateful things. He'd claim I was his roommate all kinds of stuff. A's are not particularly nice when they are in their disease.
I hope you will choose to give al anon a chance. I know I have now for 4 years and it is so useful for me. Welcome Maresie.
welcome to MIP. Accident or not, I'm glad you found this place. I had searched for a place like this for years and found it several months ago. Before I found MIP, I felt so alone and thought noone understands me. The caring and love I have found here is amazing. Glad you found us.
