The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I celebrate Christmas. I used to enjoy it whole hog and that turned into doing everything the next year I had done the year before plus something extra. That became required the following year, etc.
Then Ive had bare-bones alone years of practically no celebration. Just another day.
This year it was Christmas eve morning when I began. I had to work a full day, but I took lunch outside and went to a market to get ingredients for a special dinner. I was able to refrigerate it in the empty office fridge because almost all of my coworkers were gone already.
It wasnt until I got home that we put on holiday music and put up the tree. I never thought I would be like the people on TV who decorated on Christmas Eve! It was good. The dinner was quickly made, candles lit and we had a very nice evening. The following day we went to our friends open house and saw all the friends.
I didnt make a big drama of any of it and I had time to contemplate my idea of Christmas (new beginnings, my religious beliefs and my gratitude).
I believe it was my use of slogans how important is it? and this too shall pass- that allowed me to navigate this minefield into safety and contentment. I love knowing I can do this.
Thanks to all of you for participating in this saner life.
Thanks to all of you for participating in this saner life.
Thanks to Jill for validating that Christmas can be different things to different people. I had a modest Christmas. My family including my three grown sons have everything. We all have a warm place to live, food on the table and the extras. I have been snowed in for two weeks. The neighbors and I have been digging each other out, sharing food, and experiences. I couldn't shop anyway (two hours away). I cooked the boys favorite food. I threw a few decorations around and with the snow it was definitely a white Christmas. And I know that I am saner and live a saner life with Alanon. By the way, my AHsober and I attended an AA meeting on Christmas eve.