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Post Info TOPIC: Diminished plans and my very good holiday


~*Service Worker*~

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Diminished plans and my very good holiday


This is not major, but I smile to remember it.

I celebrate Christmas. I used to enjoy it whole hog and that turned into doing everything the next year I had done the year before plus something extra. That became required the following year, etc.

Then Ive had bare-bones alone years of practically no celebration.  Just another day.

This year it was Christmas eve morning when I began. I had to work a full day, but I took lunch outside and went to a market to get ingredients for a special dinner. I was able to refrigerate it in the empty office fridge because almost all of my coworkers were gone already.

It wasnt until I got home that we put on holiday music and put up the tree. I never thought I would be like the people on TV who decorated on Christmas Eve! It was good. The dinner was quickly made, candles lit and we had a very nice evening. The following day we went to our friends open house and saw all the friends.

I didnt make a big drama of any of it and I had time to contemplate my idea of Christmas (new beginnings, my religious beliefs and my gratitude).

I believe it was my use of slogans how important is it? and this too shall pass  - that allowed me to navigate this minefield into safety and contentment. I love knowing I can do this.

Thanks to all of you for participating in this saner life.

 



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Thanks for your great post jill. Just goes to show that Christmas is what we make of it. I hope your new year goes just as well.

Warm regards, Rocky


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~*Service Worker*~

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Jill wrote:

Thanks to all of you for participating in this saner life.


Thanks to Jill for validating that Christmas can be different things to different people. I had a modest Christmas. My family including my three grown sons have everything. We all have a warm place to live, food on the table and the extras. I have been snowed in for two weeks. The neighbors and I have been digging each other out, sharing food, and experiences. I couldn't shop anyway (two hours away). I cooked the boys favorite food. I threw a few decorations around and with the snow it was definitely a white Christmas. And I know that I am saner and live a saner life with Alanon. By the way, my AHsober and I attended an AA meeting on Christmas eve.

In support,
Nancy



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