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Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness.
While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now.
Today, I spent the first part of the day with AH in hospital. He is such a terrific snorer! He remains "out of it" with all the medication that he has been prescibed to deal with his condition and I remain hopeful that he will come out of it relatively intact. What has impressed me the most is that he is surrounded by people at the hospital who know the right thing to do for him every minute, and for that we are grateful.
This afternoon, I spent some quality time with our son. We took the time to head out for another driving lesson. I have to say that I never expected to be teaching our son how to drive, and it is really testing my program! How can I "let go and let God" when he has a lethal weapon in his hands????? I guess this is the part of the program that says I have some responsibility as well and letting go and letting God does not mean forgetting my responsibility
Rocky, I am glad you are having a good day and for now your AH is safe. Good for you for taking on the task of driving lessons. I know it seems daunting, but it is our responsibility to teach our kids to handle that "leathal weapon" with a level head and responsible attitude. I think it is really great that you have stepped up to the plate.
Have a safe and serene Christmas.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I totally relate to the whole driving lesson thing. I elected to write a check and pay for Driver's Ed classes for my kids. It was totally worth it. Now, I still had the pleasure of teaching them how to drive a car with a standard transmission (and boy that was an adventure!), but by then they already had completed their classes with flying colors and at least had the basic rules of the road down. Even with paid instructors teaching them to drive, I still had to "Let Go and Let God" - I think that just comes with the territory when you have teenagers.
Might not be a whole lot of people on the road today so who knows this just might be a good day for driving lessons. Remember to be kind with yourself and patient as well and take the day one step at a time.
Dad taught me to drive a billion years ago. It's going on 7 years since he got to go back home. Yet even at this age, whenever I'm in a traffic jam I still recall the words he gave during those lessons and still thank him for having had the patience to teach me. Thank you for your post, it gave me a smile.
It is always hard when Christmas doesn't look like the ones on the cards. Sounds like you are taking care of yourself and your family. Good luck on the driving lessons. I have three growns sons. Boys will be boys.
I got A LOT of gray hair teaching my 3 sons to drive ((((Rocky)))) but I, too, know they will hear my voice in their ears with all of my mothering advice along the way too.
Good for you, spending time with you son. These years go so fast, in a blink of an eye, it seems.
in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
