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Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you all for seeing me through this. I couldn't have done it without you.
Pipers Kitty and I are facing our first Christmas without our Dadders (as she calls him). I miss my darling Tim every day, but I know he is with us. We've had some beautiful snow here, and I like to think that he is showering us with his love when it snows.
I know it can be hard living with an A. At the same time, remember that they are human beings with a terrible disease, and worthy of love and support. If you can find it in your heart (and you are comfortable) give them a hug for me, because I can't hug my Tim. I would give any thing in the world to be able to wrap my arms around him and tell him how much I love him one more time. Tell them there's a someone out there who prays for their sobriety every day (just like I pray for your recoveries too). Remind them that they are worthy of recovery, just like we are. They deserve as much love and happiness as we all do.
Hang tight to your program. It will see you through this time of year. Take a few minutes to be extra good to yourself. I am looking forward to next weekend, when the holiday rush is over, the work hours are back to normal. Pipers Kitty and I need some serious time together. I can't wait till I can relax, snuggle in bed, read a good book and do nothing. Ahh......
Remember don't try to do it all. No one is expecting you too. Travel safe and wisely. Take a deep breath. We are all doing the best we can. It's okay to be sad, it's okay to laugh. It's okay to be human.
Much love and blessings to all of you and your families. Much love to all the MIP pets. Where would we be without them?
Live strong, Karilynn & Piper Claus
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Your post is a wonderful gift to all of us during these holidays.
I am particularly touched by your post as my AH is currently in hospital after the third major seizure he has had this year. The first seizure from a stroke, the second two from trying to withdraw from alcohol and get the monkey off his back. I was with him just now and made certain to hold his hand, give him a hug and chat happily to him. He is so vulnerable to his disease, and I know there is zero I can do to stop it's impact on him, but I can still show the love I have for him in my heart. We also have a cat, Midnight, who misses rubbing up against AH's knees!
Thanks Karilynn and the very same to you and if you are anything at all like me who believes that the spirits of our love ones are all around me at all times you can give Tim that big hug and wish him Merry Christmas from us also. Give it a try and then go about your holidays. (((((Hugs))))) from Hawaii.
Thanks so much for remembering us all at MIP! Sometimes that is all I have. Especially when I get snowed in like right now. I am grateful for what I do have. You are right. My AHSober chose not to live with me. But I do see him now and then. I need to remember that he still has the disease even in sobriety. I have my sons with me. The snow is beautfiul but my kitty Spot I think is snowed in under the deck. I need to put on my snow boots and dig her out (she runs when the boys come home to visit).
I am so sorry about your loss. I haven't been around I have been wallowing in my own grief. I know how you feel, you know this. I would give anything to just have one more hug one more minute. To smell him or just lay next to him in bed and cuddle. Even after a year I still wait for him to walk thru the door. I finally sold his jeep the other day, it just sat there and everyday was a reminder.
Take care of you, you are a beautiful spirit and even though I haven't been around always remember I love you dear friend.
If you need me call me please, If you need to cry, laugh or just relate I am here for you. I will send you my new phone number. Please give me a ring. Do the best you can to get thru the holidays, they are very hard sometimes a good nap helps.
I am so sorry dear friend, in time the pain to the heart does ease, he will always remain with you. Merry Christmas to you and pipers Kitty,.
