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Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a child, and wouldn't even marry me. Said I wasn't there family and shouldn't try to be. This hurt me because his mom and I are so close. I think I mentioned as my family goes it is only my son and I plus my sister's family. I really enjoy the rel with the A's family, but certainly don't want to be seen as a victim there or some "hanger on." They've never really treated me that way, but maybe my dad is right and they, plus the A, just feel sorry for me. Maybe he just wishes I would drop my child off and not stay- maybe they all but his mom do....
I believe what your dad said was his opinion and you can't change his opinion. However, how do you feel about it? I am friends with my bf's mom and when we were separated, I still talked to her. It had nothing to do with me being broke up with the bf. I think if you enjoy their company, there's nothing wrong with being with them.
If they have never treated you like a victim why would it be that way now? Are you trying to justify what your dad said? Guess it is hard not to care what certain people think, especially the ones close to us.
I hope you enjoy your day and the company. Merry xmas.
And maybe dad is wrong ? Perhaps dad is jealous of the relationship you have with the family . It is awsome that u have a relationship with yur ex mom in law and family that s really important to your children . Dont' question the friendship they offer enjoy the day . love Louise
what other people think of you is none of your business. Go in love, enjoy the day, like Abby sez. Be your sweet self, rise above the nastiness and ignore it. Hugs, J.
what a horrible thing to say. I'm so much better at letting that kind of stuff wash over me. For me personally its so essential to be around program people at the moment. I'm so grateful that I'm no longer tryign to people please someone who would say something awful like that about me.
