Just to let everyone know,  I really appreciate this board as I sometimes am not able to go to a f to f meetings.   
I blew up again at my A this weeknd and said some things I shouldn't but can't take them back.  I do have him thinking about what I said as he comes back with some comments about that  night.  
  I have been going to my local meetings and the first time I went,,,I think I was scolded for not going with the program.  I know in my case when you are in a situation, all you need is some guidence.  We were told that we need to follow the format of the meeting as it can get out of control from the subject that was chosen and if you need extra help to get intouch with a sponser.   I went away thinking, I could do it on my own to only have my A do something again and we went around the same mountain again.    I went to my second meeting on Wednesday and it was awsome.  We talked about Detachment...which we all need to get a handle on, you think we all do but not so much.     Someone read about Detachment with Love from my Courage to Courage book.  I went home and read this book, highlighted some areas and it took on a new meaning for me.   (AGAIN) Today I am a new person and my A doesn't know what hit him.    I have to keep thinking, my A has a sickness that only he and his GOD  can solve.  My new solgan when my A rants and raves is "I'M NOT GOING DOWN THAT ROAD".