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Hi All, Anyway, he was drunk again last nite, got angry when I questioned him about the fact that at he took $1500 from the home equity line, etc., plus other money. Anyway, me and my sons were talking about it, and of course, AH become beligerant, etc. Came out of the room several times to start fights, etc. Finally, I said I had enough. I called the police. AH disappeared in his truck. Police said they couldn't arrest him, but gave me the paperwork to bring to the DA tomorrow to modify the order. I also told them AH was intoxicated, gave them the make, model and license plate no. of his truck. They said they would watch out for him. Watch out they did! He proceeded to drive and park in front of my house w/a cop car behind him, got out of his truck and came home without that cop stopping him. This is the second time in two weeks. I called the precinct, they were of no help. Any other person would have been arrested. And oh. btw, my younger son is moving out, he can't take the drama and chaos. AH is at the bar already today since about 11 a.m., will be drinking and driving very soon. But, he called the place where he has his alcohol treatment today to tell them that it's a volitile situation due to me, and he needs to leave for a while, so he wanted to take 3 weeks off of treatment. The Director left me a voice mail. I returned her call but she wasn't in at the time. Now I'm wondering if I should let her in on it, so she will know. I want to leave it in God's hands, but in a way, AH opened the door on this one. I didn't call her and would not have, had she not called me. ESH welcome.
Hi gueenie 105 I was told by two of my AH cousler that it is ok to let them know when things are getting out of hand and if the A is drinking because the couslers only see then on a small time frame and they do not all ways know when the A is drinking because they can really tell stories. But it is up yopui you and your HP But that care of yourself and the children first.
I'm sorry you are going thru this right now. I spent many years painting the picture much prettier than it was. Knowing what i know now I would not go out of my way to paint it black but I would answer any questions honestly and calmly, as rationally as possible. Actually I did do that in the past few months when my AexH listed me as a reference on a court thing. It felt much better to stick to the facts and let the chips fall where they may, than to push an ugly picture or paint a cheery one. Juat my 2 cents.
I get the impression from your words that you are standing strong, I am glad of this. Try to do something extra speciial for yourself, and take a little time just for you as much as you can
