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My intention is not to push my beliefs on anyone...I'm just posing a question, food for thought.
What if: Your true feelings mirrored/reflected what the universe brings to your life?
What if: Fear brought you more fear, distrust brought you more distrust, anger brought more anger, pain brought more pain, stress manifested illness etc.
For me, when I seriously considered this concept, after I forced myself out of victim mode and really thought about this possibility... Things very much changed in my life.
It is opposite of everything I was taught. I thought life brought me things and I only dealt with what was given. BUT, what if my feelings (my energy), conscious or unconsciously is what really ruled my world.
*Remembering that other's thoughts/feelings also may involve me, I now need to question was it me that brought or was it them? What's the life lesson? Why is this in my life? I question with good and not so good things so I can appreciate the lesson...mostly be aware and learn. Does the other person need to learn from me? Me from them?
For example, If I have distrust or bad thoughts of a person, always that person will eventually do something to betray or dissapoint..I used to call it "intuition". Now I understand that my initial energy/thoughts brought exactly what my so called "intuition" put out.. It's really interesting once you allow your mind to go there.
I'm not asking anyone to debate, just simply "What if" this is how things work? Would you make an effort to change your thoughts/feelings?
Christy
-- Edited by Christy at 13:26, 2008-12-03
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Good way to think about things from a different angle and no debate from me. Just wanted to say this might help me with my funk of not being able to see anything positive about my A right now. I was starting to think about writing a list of positives and neagtives so I could change my focus. your post gives me another angle to use too.
funny also as an aside, everytime I typed angle above it first came out as angel......... (-: Friends are angels who lift us when we are down. Thanks for the post Christy!
hugs, ddub
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I have always believed even as a small child that what I felt was what would be. The concept of faking it til i made it came quite easily to me, not to say it was easy but the concept made so much sense and was easily practiced.
I do believe positive energy brings positive results, and the opposite also. When I smile people smile back, when I frown people frown back, if I am afraid of a dog it may bite, if I send vibes of compassion and respect it will normally love me. While doing a chore, if I find satsifaction the outcome is super, if I am irritated by having to do it usually it does not go well.
nmike, Because you believe/feel you are codependent, does life constantly confirm it for you? "What if" you believed you weren't? Hmmmmmmmm *wink* Food for thought.
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Well, this sounds like the law of attraction to me...??? I do want to believe it, that my thoughts manifest my reality, is that what you mean?
In my experience, when I first learned of the law of attraction, I began to dream... I was never in the habit of dreaming, I was always in survival mode, waiting to deal with whatever craziness popped up. I began to dream of "feeling" peaceful in a beautiful setting... it was a lovely, persistent dream that brought wonderful peaceful feelings, just dreaming it. That was 2 years ago. I am divorced now. And, feeling quite peaceful... ( when I'm able to let go of my fears of being alone.) It truly takes persistent focus.
I believe that what I focus on with my thoughts.... gets bigger. Definitely. Ultimately, I believe a force greater than myself has all the control, but I believe that force (my HP) wants me to be happy, joyous and free... (in a spiritual context.) When I align myself with that, it becomes my reality. This requires my acceptance of things as they are, and that is the challenge. And that's why I keep coming back. lol
-- Edited by glad lee at 10:22, 2008-12-04
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personally now when I am around people who give me the heebie geebies what I have learned is I need to boundary up. In my codependene I'd believe that I could learn something from certain people. There is some truth that those who often make me most uncomfortable are those who mirror certain traits for me. I really no longer believe that I can help anyone but myself primarily. Certainly I go out of my way to be kind, nice, polite and engaged to some people. Other people who are continually rude, nasty, wierd, selfish and irritating I don't give the time of day. I may be able these days to be socially appropriate with them but I certainly don't have any illusion that I'm going to learn anything from them other than that their incredibly dysfunctional behavior and total self absorption is off putting to say the least.
glad lee, I guess you can call it LOA, that's what current society has named it, though I think it's been in place since the beginning of time. It only makes sense that what we focus on gets bigger, the cool part is when the good things manifest :)
maresie, Of course we all need boundaries for protection but I find that I can learn something from every person. Even if it's a note to self to never act like they do toward another soul. Most of the time no matter how nasty, internally I try to remember to wish them love and peace. I know that people that act nasty are more then likely deeply hurt people. I can't say I always get love back..lol But I can say (for me) that offering kindness needs no boundaries and I feel much better having put that energy out, often changing the demeanor of the nasty or rude person to a softer version right before my eyes. My boundaries are still in place, I don't invite dysfunction in to my life by inviting volatile people in, but I can be kind and walk away from the dysfunction.
I was Christmas shopping the other day, standing in the check out line. A Mother with 3 (screaming) kids was directly behind me. The Mother said to the oldest, which was about 4 yrs old. "If you don't straighten up when we get outside I'm going to knock the snot out of you"!! The lady behind her made some comment about abuse and the Mom very nastily told her to mind her own damn business and to shut the hell up. I said "excuse me" to get her attention, she looked at me like she was going to rip my head off. I offered for her to go ahead of me since I was next to be checked out. Her facial expression immediately changed, she gave a big sigh and said "Thank you so much". Not only that, before she left she apoligized to the lady she had snapped at. In that case she mirrored kindness. Kindness brought kindness where there wasn't any.
Christy
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glad lee. Thanks..but any one of us can be kind and watch the result of it. Simple acts of kindness could change the whole world. It's catchy The bonus is... more times then not it comes right back to us.
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I think I definitely invited crazy people into my life. Now I am trying to keep space for those who have some functionality. Sorry if I sound jaded. I have to remember I am not Mother Teresa daily. I can get absolutely addicted to rescuing and helping others. I am nice. I am patient, I am kind. I do however have limits. If someone is persistently awful (as some of my roommates are) I just avoid them period.
Wow...I'm staying in the shallow end of the pool although I have the compulsion to swim to the deeper side. LOL I remember doing all the "what ifs" thinking. I am or have been very very analytical; the thinker. Getting into program helped me change all that and where at times I do need to use my head for some real thinking most of the time I use it for entertainment. It was my sponsor that told me that If I was going to what if on everything I must, If I wanted to maintain balance, also what if not. This practice gave me the ability to let up on my analytical self and witness and participate in all the wonderful things that go on around me instead of missing them because I was trying to figure it all out. Another thing I found out was that the more I tried to think things out the less I prayed and meditated...that conversation practice of listening and patiently waiting for my Higher Power to fill me with awareness I needed to have rather than wanted to have. It was again a matter of control or attempts to control by trying to think them out.
"We reap what we sow" was part of a paper I found at the local Goodyear tire store while I was trying not to be put in a coma by the customer service television. I would be glad Christy or anyone to scan it into my computer and email it to you or some other way more comfortable for you. It is entitled the Power of Gratitude and I felt special to find it cause I can alway use these thoughts and blessings. And since I am a believer in gratitude and share my ESH on gratitude a lot...Christy you are right. I got back what it was that I put out there.
I can just see what you did in the store and it makes me smile at how powerful our lives become as a result of spiritual, mental, emotional and physical recovery.
By the way do any of you have the prayer "The Desirata"? To me that is more a suggestion on how I can live my life. It's Powerful.
Thanking you all for your input and feedback; your ESH. How can I not be better as a result? Mahalo Akua!!
Sounds like the secret... :) I believe this fully! How you perceive things and what you put out is what returns to you. I also think it's very important to think through what is important in life. As Americans I find that we fall so easily into the Money/Consumerism trap. More is better and all that. Sometimes less money and more time equals more happiness! I might not have everything I want but I have everything I need and I feel happy~! Sometimes the routine becomes overwhelming and we forget to focus on all that we are greatful for!!!
