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I am having trouble today with Chaos. And other peoples Chaos. I can take care of me and have ORDER. Stress free and take care of business. I just can't stand the Chaos of other people being scatterbrained. I mean, come on...get it together, right? OH..just venting! Thanks all!
I lived my life in choas for so long that I didn't even see it. I was always "dancing as fast as I could", and that kept me in the choas game. I was on a crazy roller coaster that was out of contol and thought that that was what life was about.
With alot of work and help from my Al-anon support, I got off the choas roller coaster and am in control and living with alot of peace. I am happy just living my life and letting others live theirs. I came to Al-anon to try to figure out how I could help my A. I had no idea that the lessons learned here were life lessons that I could use in dealing with most people in my life.
NOW that I am off that crazy ride, it is so much easier to see others still on it. I wish I could help them get off, but then I have to remember that I didn't listen to anyone when I was on it. They need to find their own way off as I did. When others ask me why I am at so much peace now, I tell them, but I keep it short and sweet.
When dealing with people on the "choas coaster", I just try to remember I was once like them, and just pray they find their own way off in their own way.
I am dealing with alot of chaos at work. It's driving me crazy. I have to remind myself that I did not create this chaos. All I can do is try to create some kind of order out of it, so that I can make my work easier. I say the Serenity Prayer lots there. I can only do so much. I even use Step 1 and substitute the word Retail for Alcohol. It works!
I also remind myself that will all that has gone on there the past month (several managers fired, associates being fired, one passing away) that perhaps we are all doing the best we can. I make a huge effort not to get caught up in all the "drama". I have a job to do and need to take of my work, not others. I can't fix others. I can't make them work the way I think they should be working. If they want to get caught up in all the drama, so be it. That's their choice. The consequences of it is none of my business.
All I can do is do the best I can, and try to keep my side of the street clean. Not always easy, but certainly neccessary. Thank goodness for this program and it's toolbox. Where would I be without it? Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I think that is the norm around an alcoholic and their associates. We have to detach, detach and then detach some more. That is about the only way through it. Say the serenity prayer and keep at it.
Remember Marie Rua's suggestion to watch out for the dreaded "Fix, Direct or Control". That is my mantra these days.
I have to remind myself that I did not create this chaos. All I can do is try to create some kind of order out of it, so that I can make my work easier. I say the Serenity Prayer lots there. I can only do so much. I even use Step 1 and substitute the word Retail for Alcohol. It works! 
