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Why is it so many people cannot express themselves without the repeated use of the "f" word? So, ok; I have heard it before, but does that mean I have to be continually assaulted with the trashiest, most disgusting word the English language has produced?
Have I missed something? Is this the new buzz word?
Not long ago I stopped into McDonald's for a coke. A young mother proceded to change her baby's diaper on one of the tables in the dining room there. Customers were aghast, so I spoke up. I was met with a streak of profanity peppered frequently with the "f" word. "'F...' you!" "Mind your own "f...ing" business." I then calmly asked if she knew any other words to use to express herself. My question brought on another barrage of "f" fueled ignorance. Poor girl. She has no idea of common courtesy or civility, and she will never get ahead in this world. And the kid will likely follow in her footsteps.
Just something to think about.
Diva
-- Edited by Diva at 11:34, 2008-11-23
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I swear LOL especially if the circumstances seem to fit the expression.
i do understand though, when my sis in law was pregnant I started holding up fingers in front of my brother while we were talking. He likes to swear when we discuss certain heated topics, I don't really mind they get deleted from my mind pretty quick. one day he finally asked me what I was doing, I was counting how many times you swore during that story, debate whatever it was. This led to an interesting topic of how Aunt Jen will teach the nephew to swear, we're gonna have a gosh dang freaking good time come H E double toothpicks or highwater, for pete's sake. His wife thinks it is hilarious and my brother is terrified but his use of those RED LIGHT words has been reduced quite dramatically.
It is very sad, isn't it, when people don't seem to know any better.
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"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I wasn't even allowed to say "Rats!" as a child. Not even silly words like "ooggie" when I amde a mistake.
I "discoverd the "F" word in 3rd grade and I fell in love!
It gave me a feeling of power.
I use it. Not in social settings but when I am speaking with friends. It carries alot of power and shock value.
I am a hypocrite when it comes to when and how others use it. When I hear it being used in an argument, or in front of kids,well, that seems a bit much.
Seren, I laughed out loud when I read your reply. You have a great sense of humor and an easy-going way about things.
When we are among really close friends, a part of that friendship includes being able to freely express ourselves using whatever words we want. The trick is to have the sense and good breeding to know when to and when not to.....I think you qualify.
Keep on going Seren. I always get a kick out of your posts.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I was shocked when I worked at the high school and heard profanity constantly from the kids.
NO way were they going to talk like that in my classroom, and I would be getting in some of the kids faces in a humorous but stern way to knock it off.
I feel if a person cannot get their point across without profanity it shows ignorance.
Being very much a Christian and striving to be the best person I can be, profanity is not something I want to use.
We don't allow it on alanon because this is a "home" and we want it to be safe and as comfortable as possible for everyone.
I don't judge at all, I choose to not be around people who use it. My kids know not to talk like that in front of me. I appreciate them respecting me in that way.
To me it is showing another way the world is breaking down. In my experience, I have read prophesies that in the end times things that used to be forbidden, will become a natural and accepted thing.
When our kids at risk were not allowed to cuss in the classroom or around me,it made them see how they felt much more respected when they did not use it.
I don't believe it is just word. Words are not just letters, they have meaning behind them, they strike a cord of some kind. To use profanity for me, I don't even listen. If someone cannot be respectful of me and talk in a proper way, I won't put up with it.
Diva I am proud of you for saying something. It is sad how the world is getting so accepting of things that were not tolerable years ago for a reason.
