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Hi I am starting to take care of me. After my last post I got my AH to talk with his mother. I had to go to with hiom to talk to her to see of he could stay with her for the next two to four week until he can get in to this houseing program that he has been looking on too.
Not a good sence but I did not get up set and let his mother's anger get to me or the name call that her like to do. I stayed on couse and keep goingt back to the question at hand "Can My AH stay with you for the next two to four week?" Her did finally said yes of I would stay a way told her no problem that I planned on I on it. She tried to tell that my children where telling her things that I had not said and I told Her that I had not said them She got real Anger and ask me to leave I Did. He has can and got his stuff.
I do not know how I feel about this but not real up set yet. I know it is the best thing that has happen and now I do not have to worry that he is just going to move out and not say nothing like he does and do not have to play his games this time. Thanks for beeing there and liston. I have been going to face to face meeting and plan to keep going.
Smiley, You did great!! You went on a mission and accomplished it. You don't need to wonder how you feel aout what his Mother said to you. It doesn't matter. It's her problem to deal with. What does matter is that you did what you needed to do. Good job! Keep it up! Christy
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Good for you. My ex A leaned on his mother from time to time. I must say I never really got "on" with her very well. Now I am so glad these days not to deal with her in any way but I think I really did, like you, want someone else to take over with the A. When he slipped hugely last year she balked at that and I'm so glad I removed myself from the situation. I have no doubt he's still in touch with her and still enmeshed.
I hope you will read Getting them Sober it has some great great points about early sobriety and what to do. I wish I had read those books in early recovery.
I'm so glad that you are here and starting to take care of yourself.
