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Hi all I have just got thourght reading "The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage" understand and can see some things that is helpful. However, when it was talking about the way the A chose his or she partner i did not really see my marriage in it. He was quiet and I was shy and in the book it one is shy and the other is outgoing. Can the the answer be that I am a ACoA and the rules to the normal does not apply? Help please!
Hello Smiley, please for your sake stop asking why (hugs) in the book they just pick a personality at random and talk about it , both my husband and my self were outgoing ,all u need to know is that when he drinks it upsets you . Al-Anon will help u with that . And there is nothing Normal about an alcoholic marriage . Your never going to figure him out or why he drinks he probably couldnt answer the question either We are all diff types of personalities affected by the disease of alcoholism . Keep the focus on you and your going to be just fine . Louise
I was also an "analyzer" and a "why" person until I finally came to accept that my situation was the way it was and that the reason was alcoholism. Both my alcoholic wife and I suffered from it and it destroyed everything including my life, peace of mind, and serenity until I learned how to just accept...the face that it was what it was and then started working the program. The solutions are in the program. It time we get to learn much more...in HP's time.
Face to face meetings where I was with others who helped me become aware instead of my trying to figure it all out all by myself.
