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My AH has started to sneak alcohol again. My whole family sees it but his family is oblivious to it. There are a lot of medical crises going on on his side and they just don't see it. I cannot tell on him because he will get in trouble with his monitoring program and be kicked out. He has spent the last 3 1/2 years sober but I guess the family issues are getting to him now. What do I do????
I don't know what your legal responsibility is. Alcoholics relapse. They need a support system or that old self will starts taking control. Can you go to f2f Alanon meetings to take care of yourself? Keep coming back.
Hello nancy , u do nothing except I hope u find an Al-Anon meeting for yourself if your not already attending one . Your partner is responsible for his own actions if he gets caught so be it . let it play out the way it's supposed to with no interferece from you . We are asked to not create a crisis & telling would do that and we are asked to not stand in the way of a crisis if it is a natural course of events which is not to protect or interfere in anyway . this is his problem leave it with him where it belongs .
I feel your pain. Please know we are here for you, your Face to Face meetings are here for you and your Higher Power is here for you. If you have the books from years ago, get them out, dust them off, and read them again. Get to meetings and take care of yourself. Detaching is a hard concept, but if you can do that long enough to get the help you need, you can, at least, control how this effects you. If he is falling apart, dont left him take you with him.
Thank you all for your quick replies.... He will lose his job..we will lose our house...kids will suffer... the whole family will fall apart....etc, etc, etc...... I will continue to cover up for him until the world comes crumbling down....
