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i am an adult child of an alcoholic, namely my mother. its driving me nuts. i started counselling yesterday but i am not sure if i have connected with the counsellor. there is a lot of deep stuff. who do i turn to? i need to find peace in some form. i am 48 and single and pretty lonely at the moment. i do have some support from my sister and landlady but feel i need someone professional to listen.
Welcome to MIP.... I think you'll find a wonderful and diverse group of people on here.... many of whom have had similar experiences, and you can learn from each other.... I'm not too familiar with ACOA, but I believe there are some good books out there, including ones from Claudia Black.....
Please keep coming back, post as you see fit, and participate with us.... this is a really good place to start, and face-to-face Al-Anon meetings are "even better yet".....
Take care Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
welcome to MIP - I agree with canadian guy , find some meetings in your area they will help alot u will find people who have been where your at and can help u find the answers your looking for. I would suggest trying your councelor again and ask if they have knowledge of alcoholism and it's affects on the family members. You will find what u need in our program and it works well with a good councelor . good luck
Welcome to MIP I strongly recommend that you go to face to face Al-Anon or ACOA meetings. You can find listings in your area by doing a google search.
You will find there are people there that understand what your going through because they have either walked in your shoes or are walking in them. Find yourself a sponsor this will give you someone that you can call anytime and just spill it out of your system so you can learn to move on with your life. Most groups also have a call list of group members which have agreed to take calls. This list is invaluable because it also gives you someone to reach out to 24/7.
In the meantime keep coming back here and read and post as you like. You will find a new family here as well as a new one in your face to face meetings.
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Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
I am most definitely ACOA but prefer al-anon for a variety of reasons two of which I have found al-anon to be more simple (NOT as in easy) and structured and its also more spiritual, in my opinion.
I am 44 and have been an al-anoner for around 3 years now. I am glad you are here. Please come back often and read many of the posts here.
Its going to get better. Stick around and you will see. You have made the first step to a MUCH better new life. I have had counselors off and on and I recommend that you give this a try also with the understanding that there are so many different kinds of counselors and you may or may not connect with them.
None of this is for sissies and I congratulate you on your courage. Just admitting you have issues/problems is a massive piece of work in and of itself. Welcome and keep coming back here. Hugs, J.
Many thanks to those who have replied to my post today. Made me feel a bit better already. I will keep reading the posts. I have one question. How do i go about finding a sponsor? i think it would be a huge help if I had someone I could turn to at any time.
Welcome, I'm so glad you found this place. I do not know the answer to your question about a sponsor. If no one else answers it soon, just post it as a new message.
There are meetings on line here at the chat room. They have been great for me, but as many have said, you will get alot out of face to face meetings. (links to the chat room is in the upper left corner in the yellow block)
Our journey to recovery is a long one. I hope it makes you feel less alone knowing there are so many of us on the same path. We help each other along the way.
