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Well, the A got arrested AGAIN. This time for driving on revoked. Granted he is on probation. None of this is my business. However, of course relapsing myself, I make it my business to find out from hims mom what is going on. Find out that a friend of his and his ex ex girlfriend are going to pick him up and they did. I even texted the friend to see if she was indeed going with him. Jealous again, this time over a different girl. Will it ever end? I am reading Love Addiction and really trying to detach. Thanks for letting me vent.
I so understand that Jealous feeling. "I want what they have!" "It's mine, you can't have it". I wanted a person JUST BECAUSE they didn't want me. How could they not want me? I will make them want me! It didn't make a difference if I really wanted them. It was me trying to contol a situation that I shouldn't have wanted in the first place. NOW I know I will never want a man that doesn't want me. I want a partner in life, not someone that is so weak that they are only with me because they can't find anyone else that will put up with them. Do you really want to be in the life of someone that is so out of control? Do you really think he is going to change for you? Do you think you can change him? It sounds like you have an opportunity to step back from the situation and give him to someone else for a while. Step Back! and really look at him and his behavior, and how it makes you feel. Listen to your head, and find the answers you need.
