The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I finally get the concept of taking the focus off the A and placing it on myself. For some reason, I always thought of it as the focus being on him during our interactions. Then I realized I have a strong tendency to think about him, almost to the point of obsession. We're separated but I began to realize that I focus on him even when we're apart. During these times I'm not thinking about self-care, being gentle with myself, working my program etc. I am still caught up in the disease. Even before this realization I asked myself where am I? -- Now when I go down the rabbit hole that leads me to thinking about A I will ask myself who am I focusing on right now? What a revelation and relief.
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Curlee
Just for today I will not harbor unhealthy thoughts.
Great post and awareness. The same awareness applied to the other side of the fence is called, "being under the influence." When the alcoholic and or addict obsesses about drinking, feels compulsed to drink, is drunk or has a hangover...They are under the influence of the chemical and disease. They use the bottle and we use...?
Great post! Thanks for sharing. I find myself thinking about the A too even when I'm not with him. It can be consuming at times. But it's a good reminder to put the focus back on myself and caring for me.
