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Post Info TOPIC: He crashed... he burned... but I am 98% detached (today at least) !


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He crashed... he burned... but I am 98% detached (today at least) !


Well it finally happened.  He crashed again.  This time to his all time low (I think).  He's drinking, doing drugs and running with the pole dancing strippers again.  To top it off, in the last month, he's been pulled over 3, not once, not twice, but 3 friggen times for DUI.  2 times he's been involved in accidents!  The cops didnt take his license, why I dont know especially since he has a pending court case for yet another DUI from a few months back.

My thoughts today are 'sucks to be him, but I'm having a good day!' and my day is more important than his.  Does that sound negative?  Oh well!!

-- Edited by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ at 15:41, 2008-11-04

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RE: He crashed... he burned... but I am 98% detached!


Personally I had to make it a huge point not to know what the A was doing. The driving stuff made me ill with worry.

Sometimes I wonder about the court system. It seems to take a murder or something to lose your license.

Maresie.

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Thankfully I stood my ground and didnt give into my desire to call him.  One of our mutual friends called me and told me what happened.  I thanked him for letting me know but kindly asked him not to keep me abreast of the situation with him because I had moved on, am happy, and will not get sucked back into his life.

To me, that was huge.  It shows me that I am detaching, which is a good, no GREAT thing.

I know when his court case finally comes about, he will lose his license forever.  The system may be slow, but they take repeated DUI's very seriously. 3 strikes and youre out. 6 and you're just done!



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Aloha HB!!

The most simple response I learned in detachment to my alcoholics negative
consequences was the..."oh well".

Thanks for the share.  Your program is growing.  (((((hugs))))) smile

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Good for you for working your program! thanks for the share today.

Christina

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