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I physically can't take it anymore. I have been away from this board for awhile, thinking I know all and can handle it. I have realized,,not so much. I have given everything over to my God and I trust him completely. I have come to the end,,,I have found out that my husband is not only an alcholic but a gambler as well. I have never had any cause not to beleive him until now. He is hiding money and keeping secert bank accounts. He went out gambling and drinking tonight with no thought of calling me. He came home and I know you don't argue with a drunk but it got the best of me. I am in need of some answers. I know tomorrow I am going to all banks and try to get his name off accounts. I don't know whatelse to do. Help, any suggestions.
I hope u are attending al anon meetings for yourself u need support . you don't have to go thru this alone . Protect yourself money wise is a good idea goodluck with the banks . And your question ? when is enough enough only u know the answer to that one . Louise
I think you've answered your own question. Remember recovery is about taking back your life. It's about living the life you so richly deserve. Our recovery takes places regardless if the A recovers or not. It's about living strong. Meetings will certainly help you. They are a life saver. Please don't be a stranger. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
you can withdraw money and open your own seperate account that is yours alone. get your name off the joint accounts. You can get your name off the joint accounts. Jean
I had a similar situation with my exAH gambling and writing checks I did not know about. I talked to a personal banker at the bank with our joint accounts that i felt comfortable enough to explain it all to, it helped so much. She made everything as easy as possible. The nicest thing was nothing I said shocked her at all, she had heard it many times.
I know what I have to do and thanks to all. My question is how do you stop from thinking about this every minute of the day. The only time I am free of thinking about this is at work. I know I need to take care of myself but how? I am reading Codependent No More. I have had this book for many years. My sister gave it to me in 06. I pray to God for him to help my A.
