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For me worry and obsessive thinking go hand in hand. When I get worried and start to think obsessively about things and all my irrational fears I try to come on here and read peoples shares and share myself. I watch a favorite TV show and have a cup of tea. I do my yoga and meditations. I spend time with my HP. I journal about my thoughts, feelings, and day. Today my teacher from High School came into the store and it was interesting to see her because I had been thinking about her. I don't know why I was just wondering what she had been up to. So we got to talk for a little while which was nice. Tonight my ABF called but I was at work if he doesn't call again I am not going to worry about it and obsessively think about it blaming myself. In the past I assumed if he didn't call me he was mad at me or no longer wanted to be with me anymore. This time I am not having those thoughts. If he does call me I will not worry about our conversation. I haven't spoken to him since I wrote him that letter explaining to him that he hurt my feelings and wanting to know why he was friends with that girl again after what she did. I was just being honest and telling him my truth and how I feel. There is no reason for him to be mad at me because I'm setting boundaries and protecting myself wanting to know the truth. So Just for today I am not going to worry or obsessively think about all the what if's? Thanks for letting me share.
Thanks for your post! I can very much relate to the obsessive thinking and worrying part. I've been doing a lot of that lately. I went for a walk this morning, was about a mile into it and realized that I hadn't even looked around! All that time, I was obsessing. I took a deep breath, said the serenity prayer and asked my HP to help me appreciate the beautical day we had today. I was rewarded with seeing some beautiful blue birds that looked like a blue version of a red cardinal,flying from tree to tree. I'd never seen them before, but they were gorgeous and reminded me to step back and enjoy what is before me today.
Thanks for your share, I'm with you on this one. I am obsessing badly at the moment. The constant chatter in my head is tiring, and it's hard for my HP to talk to me when I'm like this. Good work on setting boundares for yourself and doing things for YOU. Not being there for the calls is ok to. We have to have a life of our own, hanging round waiting for calls is so soul destroying.
Oh boy, I can identify, I too suffer with the obsessive thinking and its crippling at times, like you I'm using things like exercise to cut the stress down and it works well, I also relax with tv and read newspapers,
oh yes, I also struggle with this lately. So glad you posted, see, you are so not alone! And neither am I or anyone else who has posted on this string!
I can at least see that this is what I am doing. We all should congratulate ourselves on that; there was a time when I could not see it and I have made progress. Sometimes, though, it happens late at night or early in the morning when I wake up and my head and heart is so full of it! In these times, I ask HP to deal with it because I cannot. I usually fall asleep eventually but for me, this is one of the hardest times. Alone. At night or in the quiet of very early morning. But this is also the best time to spend with HP, I have found (for me). Hugs, J.
HI Christina, Thank you for the share. It is so nice to know I am not alone and when I come here I feel like a part of something. I too, am a worrier.....to the point I have been on medication for almost 11 yrs now, however thanks to MIP I am now trying to stop the medication and deal with things with the help of my HP and this program. It is a hard and Scarey road at times but this is the place for miracles right? Keep coming back...
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Thanks for all the posts and responses. I find my worry happens at night as well most of the time. Lately it seems to be all day. But, I agree for me I love spending time with my HP at night or in the early morning. I usually say the serenity prayer upon waking and it really calms me and helps me to start the day on the right foot. I hope everyone who is dealing with anxiety and worry feels better soon. I know how awful it can be. I'm glad I am not alone and neither are you.
