Tuesday Share - Al-Anon Family Group

christinajeanne · Senior Member

Today has been a stressful day for me. I went to work and my boss who
is also my aunt is very stressful for me to be around. I know I need
the courage to change what I can and find another job away from her
because all she does is complain (I know I am right now) but she is so
negative. She is also verbally and emotionally abusive to me at times.
I really almost broke down and cried today. I feel so overwhelmed by
life sometimes. My counselor wants me to go on antidepressants which is
something I've been putting off and not wanting to do but now I think

she is right and maybe I should go on them. I also need to get my GED
and go to college so I can get a better job and do something I actually
enjoy doing. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed though with the whole
process especially with all the stress in my life even though I know in
the long run it will help me. My ABF called me tonight but we are out
of minutes so we couldn't talk. But, my mom said maybe he was calling
just to let me know that he is thinking about me and cares. I hope that
is true because even though I could not hear his voice it made me feel
better just knowing he was thinking about me after the day I had. I'm
crying right now as I type this. But, I know that I have my HP and
tomorrow is a brand new day. Thanks for letting me share.

Christina

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Christina!!

Just a suggestion? Before trying the meds try face to face meetings first.
Really!! Go look up the hotline number for the Al-Anon Family Group meetings
in your area and go. Try it for 90 days, as many as you can make, and then....
if you find it isn't working for you they will gladly refund your miseries and you
can try the meds. That is something like what I first heard when I got into the
program and it almost made me want to barf (the refund part) and I got to
more than 90 meetings in 90 days and never did get on the meds. One of the
things that the change did do was tick my counselor off because I was growing
without him which also means that his income was down a bit. LOL Anyhow
the program saved my life, sanity, emotions, spirit, butt etc etc. Give that
suggestion a try and see what happens to your life as your start working the
program. If you read a bunch of the past post from members of MIP who took
the suggestion and how their life is today you might want to run to the
meeting rather than wait and walk.

In any case keep coming back here also because there are hundreds of
"Miracles in Progress" just out there supporting you and loving you till you
learn to love yourself.

(((((hugs))))) smile

Okay I just read your earlier post and you are going to meetings. Keep it up
and give yourself a chance. Take it one step at a time and don't rush it. You
get to see more and experience more on a slower journey.

-- Edited by Jerry F at 02:46, 2008-10-29

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Christina,

I agree with Jerry's suggestion of trying the program a little longer before you try the meds. My personal experience with antidepressants (before I came to al-anon) is that every type I tried had an unfortunate side-effect. Drugs are never the 'solution' to our problems. I suggest embracing a relationship with your HP, who for me, is the Great Physician, the Ultimate Healer. Remember Step 2, "Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us...." if only he were sought.

My suggestion, is to continue with the meetings... yeah for YOU!!! This program saved my life and my soul. It also taught me to take the time to be still. Just sit in HP's presence and feel the love above you, below you, around you and within you. Breathe it in and welcome what is already present for you... perfect, unconditional love. One beautiful moment at a time.

Only a suggestion. Take care of YOU, whatever that looks like.

(((hugs)))

-- Edited by glad lee at 09:20, 2008-10-29

christinajeanne · Senior Member

Thanks for the responses. It's true I've really only been going to meetings for about two weeks now. And only had two counseling sessions so far. So maybe giving it more time is a good thing. I do agree I need to spend more time with my HP. I've been neglecting that this week and I am more stressed then usual. I need to get back to taking care of me and doing what's best for me. I've been neglecting that myself and I think it is taking a toll. Thanks for reminding me of that.

Christina

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