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The morning started at 8am with one of our renters filing a "formal complaint" against me-accusing me of calling Animal Control on his dog (I did not, and in fact am a VERY big animal lover-3 cats, 4 kittens and 3 dogs to date reside in my bed (s) nightly. It went from that to "trying" to plan a jingle for coworkers in an attempt for some different departments to bridge some gaps. Of course you can't please everyone all the time and what started as a "strictly voluntary" endeavor, turned into a nightmare to the point I just wanted to rip up the list and tell them all where to go. It is my time and energy that goes into ALL the "get togethers" and for what??? I got out my AlAnon book and went to what I know refer to as "my happy place"-lol. I read my slogans and decided that the only thing I had any control over was MY attitude about things and how I REACTED to other's attitudes, and ya know what? None of it was really worth getting upset about.....A week ago I probally would've got fired-lol. Trying to THINK first!! and loving the change
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Ive had people threaten to call Animal control on my dogs when they were feeling angry. Generally animal control don't follow up unless there are a lot of complaints. Who knows? I know I no longer tolerate being scapegoated but it was my role most of my life.
I'm glad you have a program.
I am in isolation mode after being way too over involved with others.
Well, don't get me started. All the neighbors are collecting strays and blaming others. Everyone threatening to call Animal Control. I yelled at work today and said I am out of here. Thanks for reminding me of a very safe and happy place to go for ESH.
You're so right "None of it was really worth getting upset about." Other people's reactions come from years of "their stuff". Who wants to anylize all that drama and take it on? It was a great call and a big step to just leave it with them to resolve. Which reminds me of "JADE". Don't JADE: Justify, Argue, Defend, and Explain
As far as the complaint..You didn't do it so leaving them to deal with that drama is all theirs too. You have nothing to justify or defend cuz it doesn't exist.
Choose peace
Christy
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