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I'm new to ALANON. I've have visited the site in the past but never actually logged on. I'm very glad that is here. I'm in desperate needs for words of encouragement. I'm determined to leave my A this time. It's the same thing all over again. He's in jail for a DUI. Even before that he hasn't helped me raise our 4 year old daughter in any real way, spends all his money on alcohol and drugs, and is not interested in getting and staying sober. He spent six years in prison because of crimes he committed for dope money. He's been to rehab four times, and now says he'll always drink a little and do "some" drugs. My daughter is already confused about him being in and out of her life. I know it's the right thing to do - to leave- if he's not interested in being an accountable parent, but it's difficult.
Hello Reene and welcome , sounds like your attending Al-Anon meetings for yourself f2f and that is a good thing , u need support . Am sorry your having such a rough time right now but it will get better if u just keep focusing on your needs and your daughters . It is hard to move on but somethimes necessary to obtain any peace of mind and the life u deserve . good luck Louise ..
Have you found a meeting in your area to go to? You will need the support and friendship from fellow Alanon members that understand. Of course you will get support here too, but there's nothing like getting a hug when yoiu need it most. We don't judge the person's decision to stay or leave a relationship. We just support the person.
Keep coming back,
Christy
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Sounds like time for support and a sponsor. Like the warning says, "don't attempt this alone or at home." You sound like you have a plan and desire and we don't advise on anything much less divorce. You will find lots of help and experienced sponsorship at face to face Al-Anon meeting. You will get to hear members share a multitude of experiences that worked for them and are available to you also. Sorry your trapped and are having difficulty finding the cage door. That is from my experience also and if you slow down go to meetings, listen, learn, practice the steps, slogans, suggestions and more as many of us do you will find help. Keep and open mind and keep coming back here. (((((hugs)))))
Welcome Renee! I am so glad you decided to come and share. This board has helped me more than I ever thought was possible...or it offered so much ESH (experience,strength and hope) I I helped myself more than I ever thought possible. I forgave myself, listened to myself,trusted myself and moved into a new phase of my life that I am forever thankful for. My strength and love for myself has allowed to me have so much more strength and love for my daughters! Take good care of you and keep coming back. There is a way to heal and there is a brighter future. Lots of love to you and your family, Fifi
