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Dear All, At the moment I am very resentful, a person who I thought was a good friend has let me down. Of course she is with an alcoholic and in denial and I was foolish when asked to tell her what I thought, she makes sure that he contacts her every night when she's working away so she knows what time he gets in, sounds familiar! not what I thought she should do. In the intervening weeks I have been dropped and I feel very hurt over this. I have not reacted and it is this board which has kept me to that.
The next issue is my step mother who is very ill, it is very upsetting, of course my father is drinking a bottle of whisky plus a day which does not help at all. I have detached but will have to face it again next week.
I have finally lost my desk at work and need to move, not looking forward to same, have to go to a crappy computer which I'm lucky to have I might add, job opportunities very uncertain so things are very unsettled here.
On the lighter side, there are three jobs that I can apply for, have the qualifications etc and I am going to do this,
Sorry the computer is acting up. Or did we change things about this site again? Anyway, I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. Sometimes it's healthy to recognize these feelings so you can let go of them. I wish you all the luck in your job search. It's not easy given these economic times. But you're a talented woman who can do much and go far. I have faith in you. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
-- Edited by Karilynn at 08:56, 2008-10-13
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I can only tell you my ESH. Work issues are huge for me because of my codependency. I can over react in a second and have to really work on not doing that.
In addition, I really have had to set great distance with people around me who are not in active recovery. I have been burned. I do not think I have the skills yet to seek out recovered friends. I tend right now to have really strong boundaries and not let them down.
Dang Girl!! You do rage and resentment real well. You sound real calm and together. I do rage and resentment all scarey like...fangs drool and claws. It would be a major down grade if I came across all calm and collected. Maybe I need to read more literature?? LOL Turn it over LM. HP has broad shoulders.
