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shaking head. Still could in no way do what a lot of you go thru.
Since i did not have to be in a vehicle with the A I talk about, I hired him to do work around here.
He really did well as far as he got, I paid him well. Sadly it was me staying away from him as he worked. If I was there he would ask for this or that. forget it, that is why I hired him to do it.
Was the same ole A banter, putdowns, usual passive agressive mental abuse,negative about every dang thing!
thank God Jehovah for Alanon Or I would have "accidently" had my huge pig Estersue bump his ladder with him on it ! (o:
A person would have to be very broken to put up with this horror. I mean it only takes one awful thing to come out of his mouth and I am out of there. No way would I be able to live with that junk again!
He did not show up Wed. as supposed to. I call, he has no gas money,never you mind he just had $500 from a painting job, and his pay from me.
I thought oh he can use the money I gave him for materials for gas and I wll give him more for materials. was only like twenty six bucks for calk.
I say that and he says it is gone. WHAT! He says what do you want me to do sit around? uh ya. so he stole from me. that was that. I don't care if it was fifty cents or a thousand, he stole from me. The Bible even says that a person who steals in the least also steals in the most. It has no measurement, it is stealing...period.
He lost it. I know he is on meth or something. HE is now freaking becuz he cannot afford his dope. Sooo he starts calling and calling after I said, we are done, bridge burnt A. Gets nastier every time leaving messages. Guess ya cannot block on a cell.
I called the sheriffs dpt he is a felon, dui's has been in prison for them,and is taking classes now for hitting his last girlfriend.
The deputy went to see him,let him know if he contacts me in any way he is going to jail. I forgot he is on probation.
Nipped that one and did not feel any pain. He is a walking disease.
Now I still have a leaking roof, he did not finish, and a window in, but not calked and framed and it is pouring down here in Oregon..My hands in a cast still from the surgery and the knee is still healing but doing great.
meaning I cannot finish them....I will do it. enjoy that kinda work.
Anyway gads ya never know when alanon skills will kick in. Though I don't have much contact with A's,those skills have changed me for the good. I did not once take any of it personal. Kept thinking of you all who are stuck for now.
Plus the skills work with any obnoxious person. I never feel it is me, being mellow, patient, and honestly do not care kinda lady, I think,"wow it must feel so awful to be so bitter, negative,mean, etc!
Part is my family was not angry. I am so blessed. Alanon helped me to get past that horrible stomach anxiety, being afraid,headaches,scared, worthless.
I do still hord food sortof. Lost so much weight when A left. Sadly I found it again.haha I am healthy though. I was starving from little food and inability to eat.
Anyway I pray every day that you all will get the strength to make changes and find the truth to serenity. It is such a feeling of I know things are ok. and when tough things come, I still feel it will be ok.
Gotta figure out the roof again now. Too old to have a freezing bathroom. sigh. but the beauty of my mountains,trees and animal life is all worth it. Plus my neighbors are awesome.
And all of you make me feel I am part of something, hard to explain. I feel a warmth, a cocoon of safety with our MIP family. Your value is immense to me. You have seen my warts and still support me. My lonelies are just normal now. NOT an every day open wound. A car sure opens up the world too!
tomorrow is getting my cement steps so I don't have to slide in the mud. yay!
Yes mud depression hit yesterday and I am NOT going to frig with it all winter. haha
Great to see you looking after the most important person in your life YOU. The kindness in your heart is still there but you can recognize when your generosity becomes used and you are being taken advantage of. You should be very proud of yourself we are. Luv Leo xx
Those A's are really good workers. So we look to them to help. They screw you over every time. My neighbor came back this weekend looking for her wood that she ordered (from an A). Fat chance. At least I can laugh about it now. I have learned to do so much by myself. Sometimes the answer is doing without/make do. Sometimes (like the mud and a leaky roof) you just have to take what you can get from whoever you can get. And sometimes there is a miracle of someone who says they will help you and really does do the work. It rained and rained this weekend. Snowed on the mountain. Oh no, winter is coming. Hunker down.
