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I posted in here a couple of times re: my A-ExBf and how we split... Well, turns out i've been doing pretty well in keeping away from him. Thankfully he hasnt contacted me either (or tried to). I have however been approached by other guys (one in particular) and we've actually been chatting, and having someone compliment you alot and have an actual life/career/social life, etc is refreshing! I've never met the guy, we're supposed to meet tomorrow night, but even if I wasnt going to, its just nice to be totally away from that merry-go-round of constant bs and drama like I was. This guy is younger than me and he seems like he might just want to be out and have fun, but hey, who knows right? Even if thats the case, good to get out and start to be around another "type" of person who doesnt carry this disease with them and so much negativity...
Well, just wanted to say hello and check in....Hope everyone is doing well!!
I am glad you are sticking to your boundaries and you are getting some strength there. Isn't it refreshing to talk to a non-A? They actually do things, have a life, get to work, seem to have balance. For so long all I attracted was closet A's. I don't want to be with an A intimately ever again. But just b/c I'm not with an A doesn't mean ppl dont go through emotional difficulties, relationships are challenging no matter how we dissect them.
My issue is MYOB and detaching, keeping the focus on me and what I can do for me. It is a struggle daily for me to focus on me and do what I need or should be doing. I make a lot of lists. Today I will excersize, do some laundry & clean the bathroom... for me this is progress.
New relationships are fun and exciting. My b/f is 5 yrs younger than I am and so far so good. I tend to project so much & I just have to stay focused in the Now, not only ODAT but one minute at a time. I used to laugh & say how miniscule some of my efforts were but enjoy & validate myself for even the smallest steps, it is still progress after all.
Hanging around positive ppl is contagious (just like the negative ones), it's so nice to have some healthy friends, I have lots online. Glad your doing well, keep up the good work!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Good for you! In this program we learn not only to survive but best of all to "live" which is what our HP wants for us. Keep working the program, keep getting to meetings, working the steps (after all it is all about us ).
Have a wonderful weekend, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Hope everything works out for you meeting this new guy. Don't have too many expectations; just enjoy his company. Who knows? Frienship may come. Everyone could use a new friend. Take care Kathleen
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