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charlescharles


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i'm getting really sick of talking about the same stuff over and over again..but it looks like my a is coming back into town...and even though i say i will keep an open mind to it..i am nervous and pretty doubtful anything will really change

i am prepared this time to take some steps..boundaries...and evnen imprisonment if things get out of hand meaning restraining order

i need some peace of mind and if things become as they were before i will take the necesary steps this time..not answering the phone etc etc..not letting her in my apartment etc etc..meetings alway and hopefully more contact with healthier people

only if things get out of hand

i will ask my higher power for all the guidance i need...i almost feel like a soldier getting ready for war

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Alone


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(((Charles))) It's only a war if you chose to fight. Good luck to you.

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maresie


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I kept it up for 7 years before I surrendered.  Step one was a huge step for me.

maresie.

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carolinagirl


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Seven years for me too. It all started with saying no and not answering the phone.

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nmike


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CC,

I have to prepare myself before I meet with my AHSober. Beyond boundaries, more like walls. But it gets my thru the face to face meetings.

In support,
Nancy

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debilyn


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Charles, I can promise it will be the same and seem even worse when nothing different has been put in place to stop it.


Instead of preparing, I invite you to make boundaries you choose to put up to insure your life is a healthy one.

Could be you decide to talk on the phone only. does not have to mean a complet cut off of communication.

Or maybe you will choose to allow the whole thing to start again, maybe you need to be beat up some more to be strong enough to stop it.

It is all a being ready thing. Only we know how much we are willing to take before we say no more and mean it.

It took me all my life Charles. I am 55, took me since I was 17 to a month ago. thirty eight years.

hugs charles, keep coming back. We are always here, no matter what.

love,debilyn

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Tenderheartsks


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Charles, my biggest concern for you is you are shooting yourself in the foot on your own sobriety. Been there, done that, got that t-shirt, and I was incredibly blessed to make it back into AA before I died.

I threw 4 years of sobriety out the window over a sick relationship.

If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything.

I will certainly keep you in my prayers because you need them.

This disease kills. cry

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