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maire rua


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Dear All,
At the moment my step mother A has stabilised with the secondary brain cancer and is living from day to day. My father is distancing himself from me and I ring most days to find out all is ok, not to fix, just to honour the agreement I made with the palliative nurses as I am the nearest in distance. My uncle died and I went to the funeral yesterday. My father tried to indirectly create a little drama out of it, this would then put the focus back on him, I think. My father takes advantage of my son who literally breaks him back for him. I have kindly made suggestions but again am not going to fix, direct or control, and as a result am a lot calmer, it is this board who has helped a lot, thank you all for your posts. I learn so much each day and am practicing creating sacred space for myself to guard, it means so much.

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RainyJamie


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I appreciate your post and am sorry for the tough time you are going through. I also wanted to show my appreciation for this board too, it has done alot to help me through troubled times.

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"sacred space for myself"

What beautiful words! This board has helped me tremendously too, and I remember I don't ever have to walk through anything alone anymore.

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"sacred space for myself"...Marie Rua...Mahalo (thanks) for that metaphor.  I will
envision it for the rest of the day and maybe tomorrow if and when that comes.

(((((hugs))))) smile

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nmike


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You are making progress. Keep it up. I loved the "my sacred space".

In support,
Nancy

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Karilynn


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((((Maire Rua)))),

Like others have said: "sacred space" that's a keeper.  This board saved my life.  Even though my Tim may be gone, it is still important to me. It's helping me to heal, bit by bit.  My condolances on your loss.  Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty heart.gif

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What strength!. They do thrive on drama don't they. The other night one of the roomates banged on my door about something. Normally I would be irate but I no longer participate in the drama. What a relief. Of course I've gone off and had my little tantrums for years where did that get me, exhausted. So now I listen, say very very little (whatever I do say doesn't elicit a very good response) and say very very little. They want drama, they crave it. I'm no longer available for it.

I am so proud of you!
 
I'm sure you feel terrible watching your son kill himself but he is making the choice.
Maresie.

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