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I think that the last time I posted was when I had an interview. Alot has happened since then. I did interview on a Friday two weeks ago. I thought that it went well. By Monday, someone in the company said congratulations on getting the job. Wow, but I haven't received anything official yet. We will see. I am really overwhelmed in my present job.
My oldest son got out of the military on a medical discharge on Thursday. This after seven long years and three tours of duty in combat. He said that he was moving in with his mother-in-law. Friday morn he, wife, and grandaughter moved in with me. Wow, I am not alone anymore. He said he had a 12 pack in the car. I said no way, no drinking in my house (it is illegal where I live).
Last Friday, I forced myself to call my AHSober and said that I would met with him to talk about the divorce papers. Didn't want to do it but I said that I would. When I was driving to met him, I felt such fear. I said a prayer and asked HP for help. Why would I be afraid of someone I have know and loved for over 30 years? I went into the meeting calm. Showed him what I had written about separating our finances. He (not me this time) went balistic. I said I am only doing what your asked - divorce. I ended the meeting saying that I was not going to give into the disease, I was not going to be put on my knees from this disease. If my HP says divorce today then I am going to but I am not going to do it for you. Wow, I think that my AHsober got the point. We agreed to talk later in the context of recovery (seems to be a safe place for us even tho he doesn't work a program).
I have been going to AA meetings in two locations. Still willing to start Alanon at the same time but no one asks. They say that your HP speaks to you sometimes thru other people. I said something about being alone and someone in AA gave me their phone number. I said something about not being happy. Someone said that is why we are suppose to work the steps. I have been working on my 4th step with an Alanoner that moved away over a year ago. We are almost thru with the Blue Book. Wow, I have learned alot about myself. Yes, I am a martyr, never realized it.
So there you go. Making progress not perfection. Finally learning to turn some of this over to HP.
Wow! A lot has been going on for you and you sound good. I remember when you wondered what was? your program....... looks like you figured it out and are working it really well. Keeping your boundaries, close to hp and so many more........... you give me hope today which I surely needed. Thanks for sharing today. Wishing you more blessings and joyl
hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
Its good to hear from you, your posts have always been so helpful, I think you have to look after yourself in relation to finances, best of luck to you,
Great share Nancy. I didn't get the part about someone to ask you to go to a Al-Anon meeting or did I get that bassakwards? Don't wait for someone to ask you to go...just go. AA might fill in from time to time however for the Al-Anon candidate it's about more than just not drinking. You do good program. Thanks for your ESH.
Incredible how fast things can change. You handled everything so well. I am glad your son is home safe and sound. Thank him for me for his service to his country. It's a remarkable thing he does. Enjoy the granddaughter. Try not to spoil her too much. On second thought, go ahead. That's what grandmas are for! Fingers, toes and tails are crossed for your new job. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Yes, surrendering to divorce is very difficult, but I also think it can be empowering and liberating when it is done with thought and somewhat on your own terms. I, too, know the confusion of being scared of someone you gave your life to.
Congratulations on the new job and having some family back! You gave a lot to your HP and from the looks of it, he took it and ran!
Good share. Keep us posted.
Blessings, Lou
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Enjoy the granddaughter. Try not to spoil her too much. On second thought, go ahead. That's what grandmas are for! 
Fingers, toes and tails are crossed for your new job. Love and blessings to you and your family.