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I feel as if I am losing my mind. Funny how when push comes to shove, the people who offer you help renig on their offer. I got kinda beaten up last night by asober b/f. I am so scared, I am so poor and I am so desperate. I truly feel that there is no one who can help me, and I am not in a situation to help myself right now. I need to leave to go to work shortly, abf is not here and has not been here all day. I am so afraid of what I am going to come home to. I have spent the best part of today calling on all my friends for help and crying and worrying. I cant do this anymore........ jeannie
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if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you
Jeannie: I had a very similar thing happen to me. I asked a friend to help and she said I could come and stay with her. She then reneged when I had all my stuff packed. I really do now believe that she had no idea what she was doing! I felt very bitter and angry. Please do go to the chat room here when you get back from work. There will be people there who can brainstorm with you. You can indeed make a plan be and execute it there are lots of people here who can help you with that. It is possible to get through this. Lean on this room and lean on it hard, go to meetings and keep looking at what do you need. In time you will get to a place where you can execute change for yourself.
Unacceptable behaviour people treat us how we let them. You carnt change others but you can make healthy choices for u.. If u have no money, if you have no one to turn to there are professional services who can help. that is how I found Al anon desperate alone and scared I picked up the phone book and Hp guided me.
Take care of you no matter how much we love others we need to love ourselves or no one else will good luck
The people at the battered women's shelter can help you figure out what your options are. They are not a bunch of manhaters who will make you leave him, but they have seen this before and therefore won't be shocked and scared, just useful. They will have access to resources that you might not have thought of - at the very least, I bet they know the safest cheap motels in town.
Thank you all for your valuable support and help! A coworker gave me a number to call for help and a friend offered me a place to stay for a little while. Abf will be gone this weekend. I have 100 bucks to my name, so I will try to rent a storage facility and put as much as I can in there over the weekend. I did go on a job interview today and hopefully, that will pan out. As for being "kinda beat up", well I am bruised and broken, after a trip to the ER for xray. I feel so foolish, so ashamed, but I know that deep down inside I will make it....somehow, some way... seeking peace, jeannie
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if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you
That sounds like a great plan be! Can you work on the rest of it. Can you give notice where you are take your name off all the bills if you are moving out?
Can you get a mail box for yourself and forward your mail?
How about changing your phone number (this is something I have not yet done but need to).
I hope you will try to access every avenue for help you can. You can certainly go for counselling at a Battered womens agency. They will be able to help you. I'm not sure what state you are in but if you have no money apply for general assitance and get medi-cal to help with the cost of health care. Can you apply for victim witness compensation?
Keep posting how you are and what you are doing and keep us all up to date.
and just in case you weren't sure (((((((jeannie)))))))) - you are ABSOLUTELY doing the right thing by taking care of yourself. Beating you up is not ok under any circumstance, and you deserve to be safe.
