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Last night my landlord who I could really have a difficult relationship with if I did not detach came to the house I live in. Many of the people who rent from him have a very difficult relationship with him. I certainly used to.
At one point when he was speaking to several of us he volunteered a political opinion and many other opinions that go contrary to my beliefs. I've got myself into real hot water in the past with discussing politics with people who I shouldn't. I said nothing in fact I was completely detached. In fact I think I said oh who you are referring to said .... and let it go. I also said it in a pleasant voice rather than a sarcastic voice or conveyed in any way what my opinion is or was about that person. He doesn't need to know and quite honesty I don't doubt he has absolutely no interest in my opinion at all (which is one reason I didnt' give it).
I have been doing a lot of work on taking care of myself, day and night what can I do, how can I do it. I've stopped craving acceptance and wanting attention from people and I certainly don't want attention from him (if he did a repair that would be great but I'm beyond the point of expecting it). I'm so grateful to be there. I have spent my whole life giving myself away to everyone.
Yes, I'm certainly going to remember the opinion piece, its so true, I'm constantly talking to people offering opinions that are not being listened to, its a waste of time, Be nice if he did do a repair instead of talk!
Guess what he did the repair. After I finally detached from it he finally did it.
Of course that still doesn't end the issues with the roommates but I work super hard to detach detach detach. And I shall have to remember FDC every single day!
