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Frustrated this morning, got a text from my AH and as he is in the sober living home a week now, hasnt seen the kids, its almost a month now and my poor 6 yr old and 3 yr old are sick with not understanding...... I just keep telling them Daddy is away and God is making him feel better inside, he loves you and misses you and will call you. BUT,.he doesnt even call everyday to say hi to them or say goodnight. He is in Sober living, he has his cell, he can call them. He can also text and is was very hurtful this morning when texting me about my sons preschool orientation that is today, he said when will you be there, I dont want to be there when you are. I said, its Orientation from 1-3pm that is when I am going, he text'd back, I dont want to be there when you are so I may have to pass. So hurtful, I get it.....but geez......!!!! I deleted them and am trying to look to God to help me feel okay inside, not to take this as a kick to my heart..... Thanks for letting me vent here........ I am into my second book now co dependency no more, still seeing my christian counselor one a week, and this is helping..... but hurt feelings are still hurt feeling.
co-dependent no more is awsome but u are dealing with alcoholism ,please find a meeting tht u an attend on a reg basis ,perhaps parents will help with a sitter for you , you need support from people who understand what your going thru . u will find that in al anon rooms. Ignore his nasty remarks keep deleting his crap messages and stop rearanging your life to suit him , go to yur orientation when it's convienient for you if he shows up at the same time thats his problem . As long as he continues to blame u for his problems he has no recovery he is simple dry and it ain't pleasant . alcoholics call it stinkin thinkin . Take care of you and your children you count too . goodluck Louise councelors and al anon work great together , gets u to where u need to be a little faster. :)
I understand how you feel. You are dealing with the disease of alcoholism. Remember the three C's... You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it. Going to meetings really helps. Even if you find it hard to share... just listen. You don't have to open up about what is going on in your life and you don't have to share. Each time you sit in a meeting, if you keep an open mind, you will find the solutions to your problems. You have a Higher Power who is working in your life and is taking care of you and your kids. Trust that power. Your AH also has a Higher Power taking care of him too. When we Let go and Let God, miracles begin to happen all around us. Try and get to a meeting. Try different ones in your area because they all have a different feel. Find one you like and feel comfortable in, that is when the changes start taking place, one day at a time.
Yes, let him take responsibility for his behaviour, its not up to you to rearrange your life, you have enough on your plate taking care of you, I wish you the best
I love Melody Beattie. I am re-reading Co dependent no more. That is very helpful.
I had such "hope" for the A I was with Giving that up was like torture.
Please take advantage of the offer at the top of the screen for a copy of Getting them Sober it is so worth it. Toby Rice Drew has a special understanding of alcoholism.
